My BF looks like he is going to get a 2:2, would I be wrong to dump him?

If he's doing History or Philosophy then yeah, definitely dump. A 2:2 in either of those is as useful as a quadruple amputee trying to swim.

you can say that about everything then.
Your education status reflects many things. Your intelligence, your ambition, if you are hard working or lazy....
He may have a legitimate reason to do badly (aka depression, family issues, part time job), but if he can't get past 2:2 (which really isn't super super hard) because hes lazy then I don't see how its not a reason as good as any other to leave him.
Especially if OP is an ambitious person

I wouldn't dump a guy if he was made redundant, but I would if he became very fat with no intention of losing it...

Take a look at your gender stereotyping there. You've emphasised appearance for women, and career/ academic attainment for men.

Tsk tsk

I'm free to set whatever requirements I personally value in a partner, even if those requirements appear uncharitable or based on archaic beliefs.


Looks are a definite prerequisite for marriage, but if I am to take the risk of actually entering a legal union with a woman in a way which is not nihilistic and not based on me reducing her to nothing aside from her looks and body, she actually will have to meet stringent requirements pertaining to issues of academic success, familial wealth, not being basic or social media obsessed and not having divorced parents or grandparents.

You missed the entire point of my post.

Not having divorced parents? Are you serious? Are you Asian?

I'm free to set whatever requirements I personally value in a partner, even if those requirements appear uncharitable or based on archaic beliefs.


Looks are a definite prerequisite for marriage, but if I am to take the risk of actually entering a legal union with a woman in a way which is not nihilistic and not based on me reducing her to nothing aside from her looks and body, she actually will have to meet stringent requirements pertaining to issues of academic success, familial wealth, not being basic or social media obsessed and not having divorced parents or grandparents.

I'm free to set whatever requirements I personally value in a partner, even if those requirements appear uncharitable or based on archaic beliefs.


Looks are a definite prerequisite for marriage, but if I am to take the risk of actually entering a legal union with a woman in a way which is not nihilistic and not based on me reducing her to nothing aside from her looks and body, she actually will have to meet stringent requirements pertaining to issues of academic success, familial wealth, not being basic or social media obsessed and not having divorced parents or grandparents.

I'm White (of varying ethnicities).


If I'm going to show some a level of loyalty which is predicated upon a belief they would do the same for me, they had better be of damn good genetic stock, or they're getting the Instagram ho treatment.

not having divorced grandparents is a bit far tbh

>familial wealth

So by writing off any woman with divorced parents, you surely have to completely oppose the idea of divorce yourself, otherwise your level of hypocrisy would simply be embarrassing. Right?

So, say you meet a woman in her 20s who is gorgeous, career focussed, genuine personality etc, perfect for you. You fall in love, get married.

Skip forward 10 years and you are miserable together. She never wants to spend any time with you, can't stand your company and is having an affair with her colleague.

Are you telling me that for the sake of loyalty, you would not divorce this woman? But would spend the next 40-50 years of your life in sheer misery?

Orrrrr if you do divorce this woman. You would show no intention of having another relationship with a woman who could bring happiness and love to your life? Because like you say, someone who is associated with divorce is damaged goods?

It's the real (unspoken) reason respectable people meet the family before getting serious, you wanna know if they're bad on the inside I don't wanna tie myself up with a volatile asset. Altering the language used when describing aspects of existence can portray the same thing in very different ways, you can talk about getting with the hot waitress in a very beautiful way, you don't care about her wealth or her background she makes you happy, or you can talk about it in a dehumanising way where you don't care about a woman other than what she can give you sexually which is why you're happy with her in spite of how one dimensional she is.




I don't want to lose out badly in a divorce court.



The point it to not marry women who are genetically bad. Also I am hypocritical because for me, my own good matters more than the collective good of humanity.

He is sort of scoring around 57-62%, but I can't see him making the 2:1.

fair enough, though one would assume you'd know a girl well enough to know she wouldn't try to get money out of you before marrying her

I've hardly met any males who do psychology, if any. Not a good sign, TBH

hahaha. in fact more men study psychology than females

It is a very hard degree.