My father is a traditional ******* believing women dont need education

My goodness this is sickening. Do NOT let your parents win. I come from a South Asian background and my parents are not like this, however, I also understand that sometimes you cannot "talk" to your parents or "talk them out" of things.

Here's a link which gives you numbers to call and advice if you're in trouble: https://www.gov.uk/stop-forced-marriage

Call that in secrecy; tell them your situation and hopefully they can help you out. In an absolute emergency, call the police. I heard a trick from a forced marriage documentary, which can help if you're forced to go abroad: put a spoon in your underwear.

I hope this helps, and best of luck I know they're your parents, but please do not let them guilt trip you. That's a standard trick a lot of Asian parents use, because Asians tend to value family more - it works. They would not force you to do this if they loved you and cared about you. This is all about "family honour" and sexism. PM if you need anymore help

Well, I am in a lot of mess and i really need advice. I have been dragged into a marriage that is well...forced. I am yet to be married as they have only got me engaged to the prick from back home (who is a desperate dickhead with no sort of ambitions or plan for future qualifications). My dream at first was from a child to become a dentist as my father is a doctor however, he had shattered my dreams by trying to make me comply to traditions of Asians. My mother has less extreme views but has been brainwashed by my father into believing that women need men and are forever dependant on them. I have lost all faith in my religion, although it is a big crime to them, yes, but being born into a religion without having faith ultimately means nothing. Anyways, as i tried to get through my GCSE's i kind of gave up as my so called mother would abuse me, physically and emotionally. After my GCSE's had ended (i had done alright although i had potential to do better) I got into college and currently just, finished my first year. In October, 2016, the engagement happened, despite me telling my mum that i'll never forgive her or never will be happy if she forces me into this. She'd go on about how his family is nice and blah blah. But im not a fan of incest unfortunately. So, the time of applying to universities will come near, and on many occasions i have planned on leaving home. I am certain and have started saving up, but the problem is applying for university. My friend has given me her address from which i can apply, but i have to keep this away from my parents as i now have ambitions of being a lawyer, and i really need to do something with my life. I dont want to be trapped here forever, being a housewife and popping out kids. The thing is, i dont know if i'll be able to pass my Alevels at this rate as I'm going crazy. I dont know whether to apply for a university in the place i am and tell my parents that ill just be applying for the local one or to keep it a secret and really escape. If any of you are going through the same, I'll gladly listen, always here. Thanks for reading this guys.

If you want to keep a relation with your parents, you need to do what they tell you. If you want to break the relation, do what you want to do.

It comes down to financial independence, money talks in this world. If you have money, you can do whatever the hell you want to do. So I do suggest you start saving and investing money, so you can be financial independent and not a hostage to the will of other people.

I disagree. I'm not going to agree to an arranged marriage just because I live in my parents' house. That would be silly. I also wouldn't agree to steal just because I was 'told to do so' - that would also be silly. Some people really cannot afford a house. I know that I won't be able to afford one until I finish university.

Then she can leave. She is not a paying guest.

If she is under 18, she will go under child services. Over 18, she will see the big bad world outside.

If you want to keep a relation with your parents, you need to do what they tell you. If you want to break the relation, do what you want to do.

It comes down to financial independence, money talks in this world. If you have money, you can do whatever the hell you want to do. So I do suggest you start saving and investing money, so you can be financial independent and not a hostage to the will of other people.

This is such nonsense.You are NOT helping the OP!

Call the police/social services.

Do you have any friends you can stay with?

Then she can leave. She is not a paying guest.

If she is under 18, she will go under child services. Over 18, she will see the big bad world outside.

Thank you so much. Honestly i was in contact with childline, they approached me and it turned out worse, my parents hated me more. I still got engaged after but I'll just have a year till im 18 and i will try and support myself really. Thank you for caring x

Honestly if i were you i would firstly start by making them sit down and seriously telling them about your life plans and how you will not be accepting a forced marriage etc make them listen if they start talking over you and spewing **** just leave the room and go and call childline/police do not retaliate. Also apply to university no matter the circumstances they have no right to stop you as it is your name on the application they cannot call up UCAS and withdraw the application if it gets real bad hide your personal ID.

Don't be scared they are your parents they should accept your choice and not whats best for them and their stupid family honour.

The world is not big and bad.
What her father is doing is s criminal offence

Please don't let one bad experience put you off. There's the women's aid that can perhaps help you. There are many charities and social services you can call for help if you need it, and when you do approach, ask them to visit you outside your home.

You can also get a forged marriage protection order, here's the link: https://www.gov.uk/apply-forced-marriage-protection-order/overview

Are your parents forcing you to get married abroad?

I do have a friend that i can stay with however i plan on staying at home until i finish my Alevels as it will mess up everything if i just leave. Thanks.

Yes, the world is big and bad. Everyone has an agenda and only keep relations with people when it helps them.

It's not a criminal offence if he shows her the door. At this rate, she will be shown the door. You either suck up or get out, there are no other options.

Why would it mess up your A levels? Do they live too far from your school?

I think it would be best to explain your situation to as many trustworthy people as possible so that they can keep an eye on you. Could you talk to your teachers? It would be worth contacting the police/social services just to make them aware of your situation in case anything goes wrong. Ask them to keep it a secret.

I don't know why people are saying contact social services, social services have no regard whatsoever for relationships. Their job is to keep you safe and put a roof over your head, they will most likely pull her out straight away and that is it, the relationship with her parents and other family members finished.

OP needs to decide what is more important, the relationship with her family or her career.

I don't know why people are saying contact social services, social services have no regard whatsoever for relationships. Their job is to keep you safe and put a roof over your head, they will most likely pull her out straight away and that is it, the relationship with her parents and other family members finished.

OP needs to decide what is more important, the relationship with her family or her career.