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    bc my classmates keep on saying i am
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    No doesnt make you a loser. If anything it makes you more dependent on yourself. You no one is willing to be your friend then thats their problem. However try to find at least someone to connect with. go on facebook groups relating to something you like could be a start.
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    No you are not.

    Forget your classmates, they have absolutely no right to call you that. It is their problem and you don't want to be friends with negative people like that anyway.

    Agree with the above and see if their are any groups you can join.

    Try to converse with people and see if they have similar hobbies, interests and take it from there.

    Good luck
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    With the british mentality it's hard to make friends, especially real friends. So you are not really a loser.
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    No. As others have previously sais, it makes you more dependant on yourself. You probaly just haven't met the right people yet. It's easy to make friends, but it's hard to make real friends.
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    (Original post by veeraxox)
    bc my classmates keep on saying i am
    They'll regret saying that when they see you on TV with an award. Just focus on your studies, I don't even talk to half of my friends from school anymore.
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    Depends. It's perfectly fine to go through a period in life of having no friends. A lot of us, myself included, go through a transitional period in which we lose contact with old friends and we don't find new ones straight away. If you have no friends for several years, though, because you're too awkward to socialise... yeah, pretty much loser status tbh. Just my honest opinion.
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    Well... yes. Of course.
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    Of course not. Friends are people you can relate with, feel comfortable around depend on. Or at least real friends. You obviously haven't just met the right people. I used to be like that in secondary school. I had classmates, but that's it. Not friends. I couldn't relate with anyone. Or shared interests. Just give time and you'll find some good people around. Just make sure you put yourself out there though. Online, or in real life. Clubs hobbies etc. It's good to be independent, but sometimes you can become too independent and unsocial, which is not really good for your mind.
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    When it all boils down, friends are just a waste of time, really. People don't seem to understand that if someone is friends with you, it's because they feel good in some way as a result of being friends with you. It's why humor is a tool that is used by many people in order to maintain friendships - hence why all the popular social kings are usually comedians - making fun out of people is a common occurrence. . The best way to check if this is true, is to ask yourself, would you really want to be friends with a deeply miserable, depressed and depressing person, that gives off bad vibes? No, of course you wouldn't. I'm not saying you're like this, but for many people this is the case - they don't even know it, and go through life wondering why they have no friends. Friends will not really get you anywhere

    You will spend your life making and receiving jokes, laughing at people, sitting in coffee shops, saying pointless phrases like "how are you", "fine, you?", "yeah not too bad thanks", and following other pointless social conventions that are responsible primarily for our civilization and gene reproduction. But in my eyes, this is wasteful of time that could be spent by doing meaningful things - like actually helping people, inspiring people, changing the world positively (in some remote way, not just for yourself), etc. You still do those latter things for selfish reasons (helping people makes you feel good), but it's actually meaningful (in my opinion, at least).
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    My cousin calls me a dunk cockroach ,doesn't mean I am one.
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    (Original post by veeraxox)
    bc my classmates keep on saying i am
    Nope
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    Define a looser, in terms of being Billy no mates? yeah kinda does i'm afraid. In the broader sense? Nope.
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    Explain to me what you've lost...

    Your keys?
    You'll find them eventually.

    Sleep?
    Just go to bed earlier and do your work in the morning.

    Your child?
    He's probably in aisle 3 looking at the sweets. Go to the front desk and ask them to make an announcement.

    Your mind?
    Ah... actually I can't really help you with that, go see a doctor.

    But in all seriousness; no, you are not a loser.
    You'll find people you can relate to in the future, but for now just do what you enjoy and let others think what they like.
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    (Original post by veeraxox)
    bc my classmates keep on saying i am
    No, you aren't. Most of people who have no friends are carefully in finding the right ones. And the right ones come sooner as you think.
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    (Original post by DarthRoar)
    Well... yes. Of course.
    why?
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    (Original post by Kenneye_j)
    When it all boils down, friends are just a waste of time, really. People don't seem to understand that if someone is friends with you, it's because they feel good in some way as a result of being friends with you. It's why humor is a tool that is used by many people in order to maintain friendships - hence why all the popular social kings are usually comedians - making fun out of people is a common occurrence. . The best way to check if this is true, is to ask yourself, would you really want to be friends with a deeply miserable, depressed and depressing person, that gives off bad vibes? No, of course you wouldn't. I'm not saying you're like this, but for many people this is the case - they don't even know it, and go through life wondering why they have no friends. Friends will not really get you anywhere

    You will spend your life making and receiving jokes, laughing at people, sitting in coffee shops, saying pointless phrases like "how are you", "fine, you?", "yeah not too bad thanks", and following other pointless social conventions that are responsible primarily for our civilization and gene reproduction. But in my eyes, this is wasteful of time that could be spent by doing meaningful things - like actually helping people, inspiring people, changing the world positively (in some remote way, not just for yourself), etc. You still do those latter things for selfish reasons (helping people makes you feel good), but it's actually meaningful (in my opinion, at least).
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    (Original post by veeraxox)
    bc my classmates keep on saying i am
    It means you're a loner. Don't worry I'm one as well.
 
 
 
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