Is wanting to dump a friend because they are a drop out wrong?

Yeah you are coming across as a bit intolerant and judgemental here, you 'can't stand' a friend and call them a loser because they haven't met your narrow career expectations?

It often takes people trying a few things or a few false starts to find where they're really supposed to be.

Don't entirely agree. The thread title is definitely judgemental. But I think the post itself, whilst I don't agree with labelling him as a loser, does suggest that this is a friendship that has genuinely drifted apart not because of the lack of success of the other person, but because their approach to life now is just not compatible with the OP. It is absolutely right that people shouldn't be judged because their path through life is different to someone else's, because they haven't had the success that others have or because they simply don't know what they want to do with their life. It isn't unusual for people to stay in this 'partying phase' either, and not wanting to be restricted to a particular job. Most people get out of that phase, but some stay in it longer than others. I don't think the friend should be judged for that here. But at the same time, it probably does make them incompatible with the OP as a friend at this point. Does that mean that situation can't change? No, it doesn't. But right now, I can't say that the OP not prioritising this friendship anymore is unreasonable based on what's been said. Whether the OP's level of judgement is strictly justified, it's difficult to say he should be maintaining a friendship with someone that he 'can't stand'. Life is too short to put effort into friendships with people that you don't like spending time around. From that perspective, I think cutting ties (whether explicitly or just passively) is justified here.

My friend from uni is basically a drop out. Everyone I know from uni (I graduated nearly 4 years ago) either has a graduate level job or is still studying apart from this one guy who wants to party and get drunk like he is several years younger. He doesn't have a job, he got a really good job after uni but hated it and packed it in to go travelling and since coming back last year he has been unemployed and doing bar jobs here and there to cover his rent in his house share. He got fired from his last job for not turning up and said he never wants an office job again, but doesn't seem to have any career ideas at all. All he wants to do is party, listen to music, go on bike rides and try to meet girls, even though he doesn't have much success there, because I think a lot of girls probably think he is a loser to be honest. I met up with him at christmas and he said he wanted to go out to this club and get hammered and did I want to come. I said no thanks. We were really good mates at uni but now I can't stand him to be honest and I am dreading the next time he calls me or messages me. Is it normal feeling like this or am I being really boring?

My friend from uni is basically a drop out. Everyone I know from uni (I graduated nearly 4 years ago) either has a graduate level job or is still studying apart from this one guy who wants to party and get drunk like he is several years younger. He doesn't have a job, he got a really good job after uni but hated it and packed it in to go travelling and since coming back last year he has been unemployed and doing bar jobs here and there to cover his rent in his house share. He got fired from his last job for not turning up and said he never wants an office job again, but doesn't seem to have any career ideas at all. All he wants to do is party, listen to music, go on bike rides and try to meet girls, even though he doesn't have much success there, because I think a lot of girls probably think he is a loser to be honest. I met up with him at christmas and he said he wanted to go out to this club and get hammered and did I want to come. I said no thanks. We were really good mates at uni but now I can't stand him to be honest and I am dreading the next time he calls me or messages me. Is it normal feeling like this or am I being really boring?

It's natural to drift apart from friends as you get older and your life changes, people grow and have different priorities

My friend from uni is basically a drop out. Everyone I know from uni (I graduated nearly 4 years ago) either has a graduate level job or is still studying apart from this one guy who wants to party and get drunk like he is several years younger. He doesn't have a job, he got a really good job after uni but hated it and packed it in to go travelling and since coming back last year he has been unemployed and doing bar jobs here and there to cover his rent in his house share. He got fired from his last job for not turning up and said he never wants an office job again, but doesn't seem to have any career ideas at all. All he wants to do is party, listen to music, go on bike rides and try to meet girls, even though he doesn't have much success there, because I think a lot of girls probably think he is a loser to be honest. I met up with him at christmas and he said he wanted to go out to this club and get hammered and did I want to come. I said no thanks. We were really good mates at uni but now I can't stand him to be honest and I am dreading the next time he calls me or messages me. Is it normal feeling like this or am I being really boring?