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    I'm sharing a house this year with three other girls. One of them dates a lot of guys, which is fine however she brings them round and they stay over and are in the kitchen in the morning or there when I come out of the shower. Personally my house is my space where I want to relax, not socialise, and I know 2 of the other girls I live with feel the same and equally don't like having random strangers in the house. This girl has apparently also invited round a ton of people, none of whom any of the rest of us know, and she didn't tell me. I don't even get any warning that half my uni will be in my living room. It's driving me nuts and I know that people are different and some use their house as a social space and some prefer it as a quiet space. I'm willing to compromise but some warning or at least waiting until she's been talking to a guy more than a week before he's staying round would be nice!
    She doesn't seem to respect that it makes the rest of us uncomfortable despite us telling her. I feel horrible because I don't want to ruin her good time but personally it takes me so long to get comfortable around people (I'm only just comfortable with my housemates and I've known them for a year although not living with them) so having random people in my house stresses me out and sick of feeling uncomfortable going to have a shower in my own house. I don't know what to do about her.
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    Try organise a flat meeting and just let each other speak about what is making them uncomfortable and how others can avoid this from happening. I had the same issue, and it all got sorted out through a flat meeting. Its just the misuse of communication mostly. Hope this helps
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    (Original post by PollyParrot23)
    I'm sharing a house this year with three other girls. One of them dates a lot of guys, which is fine however she brings them round and they stay over and are in the kitchen in the morning or there when I come out of the shower. Personally my house is my space where I want to relax, not socialise, and I know 2 of the other girls I live with feel the same and equally don't like having random strangers in the house. This girl has apparently also invited round a ton of people, none of whom any of the rest of us know, and she didn't tell me. I don't even get any warning that half my uni will be in my living room. It's driving me nuts and I know that people are different and some use their house as a social space and some prefer it as a quiet space. I'm willing to compromise but some warning or at least waiting until she's been talking to a guy more than a week before he's staying round would be nice!
    She doesn't seem to respect that it makes the rest of us uncomfortable despite us telling her. I feel horrible because I don't want to ruin her good time but personally it takes me so long to get comfortable around people (I'm only just comfortable with my housemates and I've known them for a year although not living with them) so having random people in my house stresses me out and sick of feeling uncomfortable going to have a shower in my own house. I don't know what to do about her.
    Pick your battles carefully, I doubt this is worth it
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    If all your flat mates are on your side, then have a flat meeting. Speak to her and tell her this type of behaviour isn’t acceptable. Make sure you have back up.
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    Have a flat meeting and try and put some rules in place e.g. how many nights a week boyfriends sleep over or how much notice she should give of having friends round - tbh the friends thing is a better battle to fight than boyfriends, it's a bit unreasonable to dictate when and where someone can have sex. If there's anything specific e.g. they eat your food, you can't get in the shower when you need to etc then discuss those specifics.

    After that bring it up while her friends are there if you want. TBH if you make it uncomfortable for them they might not wanna come round so much.
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    Definitely need to have an intervention. I know in halls there's a bit in your contract regarding overnight guests, is there anything like this in the contract you have in this house? Does your landlord have an opinion?
 
 
 
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