Taking a cheater back? Your thoughts...yes or no? And why 🌹

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It depends on how serious the demeanour, if there are any mitigating circumstances, the value of the relationship and degree of regret. Life is not black and white. Go with your instincts though.

How do you really know when someone regrets it though? What do you mean mitigating circumstances.

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Jennifer303

Do you think the relationship after taking someone back of cheating would have no meaning ? If so why is that.

Reply 22

Zarek

Original post by Jennifer303

How do you really know when someone regrets it though? What do you mean mitigating circumstances.

on the first point, you can only trust your instinct. On the second, perhaps if the relationship was going though a difficult patch, perhaps if there are some life stresses, perhaps if they were cynically targeted.

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marzipan1030

Original post by Jennifer303

What about depending on the situation

Personally I would never take back a cheater ever- no matter what the situation. I’ve seen the damage caused in relationships where people are married with 5 kids to teenage relationships. I don’t think that I would like to be in a relationship where I am questioning my partners every move- it’s just not healthy. So I would rather be with someone I can completely trust, rather than with someone who has consciously decided to cheat on me the first time

Reply 24

Jennifer303

Original post by Zarek

So you would take the relationship going through hard difficult patches into consideration when finding out they cheated? How would this make you see things.

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Zarek

Original post by Jennifer303

So you would take the relationship going through hard difficult patches into consideration when finding out they cheated? How would this make you see things.

I think you have you weigh in all the factors to come to a conclusion. In reality people are fallible and sometimes a relationship can survive and prosper after cheating.

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Zarek

Original post by Jennifer303

So you would take the relationship going through hard difficult patches into consideration when finding out they cheated? How would this make you see things.

So, no kissing involved, going though a bit of a rough patch, remorseful, you still fancy them - it's foregiveable..

Reply 27

Jennifer303

Original post by Zarek

So, no kissing involved, going though a bit of a rough patch, remorseful, you still fancy them - it's foregiveable..

No kissing involved. So what type of cheating are you talking about ?
Yes I agree also.

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username3239272

if u take back a cheater u will get cheated on again and again

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Jennifer303

Original post by chanel_666

if u take back a cheater u will get cheated on again and again

Isn't this just such a biased approach ?

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Jennifer303

Original post by Jennifer303

Isn't this just such a biased approach ?

If no feelings were involved and other factors.

Reply 31

username3239272

Original post by Jennifer303

Isn't this just such a biased approach ?

no it's what happens in real life, u can't change a cheater by taking them back

Reply 32

gigi77774

Original post by Jennifer303

have you ever taken a cheater back? If so why ? If not why? How do you know someone is genuinely sorry?

🌹Not sleeping with someone! Perhaps taking another girl / man out not in a friends way. Or kissing or texting someone in a way that would be classed as cheating 🌹

Original post by FloralLuxe

I would never get back with someone’s who’s such trash. I hope that I never lose that much of self respect and love that I go back with a guy who cheated on me.

Nooo... once they cheat you are so much better than them

Reply 33

Zarek

Original post by Jennifer303

No kissing involved. So what type of cheating are you talking about ?
Yes I agree also.

Flirting, being tempted is the mildest. Even kissing probably has degrees of seriousness. 'Sexual relations' starts to get a bit heavy. Mind you Bill Clinton managed to get away with it.

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livvj01

Original post by Jennifer303

How did he cheat ? And how long did you get back with him after finding out he cheated 🌹

He got with this girl on a night out when i wasn't there... So it was two weeks of going over everything and talking things out and he literally did it that weekend x

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username3657170

I intend to never have a child nor marry (including relationships) in my life on earth and reading things like this just makes my mind at ease (for me of course)

Reply 36

It's****ingWOODY

As others have said, I could never trust them again and the relationship would be ruined, so nah.

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Clover101

Nope, once a cheat always a cheat!

Reply 38

dandiprat

Never take back a cheat. I almost did it once. They demonstrate the worst in people 9/10. I can excuse some circumstances, but I still think you are small if you cannot just stand up and be honest about not being ready for a monogamous relationship.

In my experience, cheating comes mainly with immaturity or being a knobhead. I have never been interested in sleeping around, which is perfectly fine to do, but too many people who are at that stage in their lives trick themselves and others into thinking they can settle down. It gets selfish.

Cheaters also turn out to br repeat offenders.

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Jennifer303

Original post by chanel_666

no it's what happens in real life, u can't change a cheater by taking them back

Of course you can’t change no one unless me they have to change themselvEs. I gu as sometimes people do change after cheating on their partner if they’re genuinely sorry and want to change only.