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What do you do if you loved someone and you don’t know how he may feel because he has a girlfriend and can never ask them, how do u move on from that person when you feel that he ‘was the one?’
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What do you do if you loved someone and you don’t know how he may feel because he has a girlfriend and can never ask them, how do u move on from that person when you feel that he ‘was the one?’
You do know how he feels because he has a girlfriend. You don't have to ask him to know that he's interested in her, not you. It's hard when you can't hear it from him explicitly, but it would be wildly inappropriate and disrespectful to ask. Try focusing on yourself for a little while, and not that part of yourself that you want to share with someone else, and then start talking to other people and make new connections and you'll soon realise that there are still other people out there that you can feel this way about
It's a difficult one because you don't know how he feels . . . if he doesn't know you're interested in him (you need to be really explicit for guys, otherwise they don't get it) . . . he might be with his girlfriend because (a) he's not good at being alone, (b) he used to be into her but is now going off her, (c) he really truly loves her and thinks she is the one, or a whole multitude of other reasons . . .
If you are interested in him but don't know if he might be interested in you then you probably need to talk about that (which is really hard) . . . maybe he has twigged that you like him but if he doesn't know you that well or isn't sure how into him you are . . . then maybe he doesn't know what to do with that . . .
Not everyone is always totally happy, just because they're in a relationship . . . work out what you might lose by asking, then weigh that up against what you might gain . . . if you could gain more than you'd lose it's worth raising
If you are interested in him but don't know if he might be interested in you then you probably need to talk about that (which is really hard) . . . maybe he has twigged that you like him but if he doesn't know you that well or isn't sure how into him you are . . . then maybe he doesn't know what to do with that . . .
Not everyone is always totally happy, just because they're in a relationship . . . work out what you might lose by asking, then weigh that up against what you might gain . . . if you could gain more than you'd lose it's worth raising
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