I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we've been living in a flatshare with another flatmate for most of that time. My girlfriend moved out for a few months and I had a 'friends with benefits' relationship with the other flatmate. We agreed that this was nothing serious and it was easy to hide as we lived together alone. But my flatmate got emotionally involved and she told my girlfriend.
I admitted to what I did immediately and to cut a long story short, she forgave me. We live in our own flat now, and she has access to my phone to make sure that I don't speak to our former flatmate. The issue is, six months on, she wont have sex with me. She says she still loves me the same etc but the most we do is kiss. Prior to her moving out, we had sex 4-5 times a week. I find this really stressful as I don't want us to stay like this forever. I made a terrible mistake but the devestating consequences cannot last forever. I'd rather she broke up with me than not be able to have sex for many more months - 1 year+. I think she's either still angry with me or is no longer interested in the long term.
The only other reason she could still be angry with me is, I told her that it was a few times but I fear that our flatmate has already told her that it was actually closer to every day. I have fallen out with the flatmate and have no way of asking her what she has told my girlfriend. If I tell her now about the true extent, I think she will go ballistic even if she already suspects it.
Do you think I should stay with her and wait? Should I tell her exactly what happened to see if that's the only thing holding her back? We are otherwise a very good couple and still live together as very good friends.
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