Should I move for my boyfriend

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, and we are inseparable and crazy in love. The only problem is he is from manchester and I am from Nottingham. I don’t have that many friends but the ones I am making are from Nottingham. I have said from the beginning that since I am at uni in Manchester and enjoy it there I would move to Manchester to be with my boyfriend when I finish uni, however my mum has said she will not support it and will not be a part of my life which is heartbreaking for me as we are very close. My boyfriend will not move to Nottingham as he has younger siblings who he wants to be there for and loves Manchester. I myself really don’t know what to do, I want to have a career in media which is better in Manchester but is it silly to leave budding friendships and family to go to Manchester?
What should I do?

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now, and we are inseparable and crazy in love. The only problem is he is from manchester and I am from Nottingham. I don’t have that many friends but the ones I am making are from Nottingham. I have said from the beginning that since I am at uni in Manchester and enjoy it there I would move to Manchester to be with my boyfriend when I finish uni, however my mum has said she will not support it and will not be a part of my life which is heartbreaking for me as we are very close. My boyfriend will not move to Nottingham as he has younger siblings who he wants to be there for and loves Manchester. I myself really don’t know what to do, I want to have a career in media which is better in Manchester but is it silly to leave budding friendships and family to go to Manchester?
What should I do?

Why would your mum not want to stay close to you?

I had a similar dilemma, I'm also from Nottingham and bf was in London- had always said I would love to move to London but then had doubts because it's a big decision. Anyway I moved down, i didn't have friends in Notts anyway so had nothing to lose. I hear people in Manchester are super friendly so no doubt you will make friends there too and your bf will introduce you to the people in his life.

If you give more info about the situation with your mum it would be helpful to advise

You posted this yesterday , just read that thread.

I'm curious to know why your mother won't be part of your life. Is your family religious? Is your boyfriend looking after his siblings everyday? Both you and your bf will have to compromise and find a middle ground. Even if you both move it's not like you won't see friends or family ever again, in fact, most graduates live far apart from friends yet still keep in contact and see each other often. Take into consideration which location is has better job opportunities; cost of living (both groceries, rent and bills); cost of transport (unless you drive).

I'm also thinking of moving to Manchester from Nottingham with my gf, as there's more job opportunities there. Whilst most of my friends will be mostly in Birmingham, London and Nottingham, we will still be meeting occasionally as they all drive.

This is really helpful! Basically my mum says she does not want me moving just for my boyfriend as she thinks it’s a silly choice. She also hates that she would not be able to see her grandkids when I older etc but if I’m living an hour and a half away I could easily bring them to visit her (this wouldn’t be for years anyway!). She is my best mate but says she will never forgive me for choosing him over my family, but that’s not what I’m doing I just want to have both him and them in my life and this is the only way to do it.

So this is a permanent move forever? Have you and your bf considered future plans like marriage and raising kids in Manchester? Or is it a move because the relationship i going well and you are hoping it i long term?

Because your mum might just be super exaggerating and a talk instead to calm her is what's needed instead

We have spoken about marriage etc and we already live together when at uni so we were wanting a lace of our own in Manchester. In my mums head it’s very much like once I’ve gone I’m never coming back and she won’t listen when I say we may even decide to relocate further down the line! Also I’m quite rational in the sense that I know some relationships don’t work no matter how happy I am right now, however if I don’t move to Manchester I will regret it, I can always move back. I’ve tried calming her through a talk but she just gets heated and very upset and annoyed and it seems to make it worse the more we talk about it.

Is your mum my mum? Hahaha
You won't be able to see her as often but she's being very ridiculous. You don't even know if when you decide to have kids if you will move again. She should be hoping for the best for your future. Does she like the boyfriend? Is he a decent person (never cheated or hurt you?)

He’s lovely and 100% loyal. He’s my dream guy haha. My mum always says she loves him and that his only flaw is his location 😬 Thankyou this is so helpful !

She just doesn’t agree with me moving away for him, she feels like I am choosing him over her which isn’t the case but I can’t convince her otherwise. And he just worries about moving away from them as they don’t really have a father figure and they are quite young (9-10 years old). Thankyou for your reply it’s actually been really helpful!!