Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year and have lived together for about 6 months now. Earlier today I was tidying the bedroom when I came across a phone I had never seen before. When I clicked the on button it was full of hidden notifications. I’ve never had a reason not to trust him but for some reason I decided to look on the phone. When I did I found he had fake social media accounts on almost every social media. He has been sending himself hundreds of photos of other girls some of which he has taken himself clearly without the girls knowledge. It’s full of people from his works legs, butts, feet etc. Alongside that he has lots of pictures in girls in lingerie, and some wearing nothing. He also has loads of screen recordings of girls Instagram stories and Snapchat stories.
Alongside this he has only fans now I have no problems with him using onlyfans however he has hundreds of messages from different girls and he is paying almost £100 a month to only fans but always telling me how stressed he is about money.
I’m really upset by all of this but don’t know how I’m meant to address it. He has BPD so if he thinks I’m upset with him he goes into self destruct mode. I don’t want to trigger him however this has really upset me. I don’t know if the pictures are somehow linked to his BPD or not.
Please can anyone offer me some advice on what to do or anything.I’m so lost and confused