wasted my teenage years.

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

aghhh I feel the EXACT same but I've tried to stop thinking about it cos it's a super depressing thought.
Just stop beating yourself up and being worried about assignments and the past and suchlike. Suddenly at university everyone wants you to be headstrong and opinionated and only do the work you want to do for some reason, so just be bold and live how you want xx. true friendships and other things will come when you start being daring and lose whatever was holding you back at school

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Echo486

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Original post by Anonymous

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

I’m still in my mid-teens so I’m probably not the best to ask about this but if you want my advice: you can still do a lot of those things in your 20s - you’re still young! I have social anxiety too but rather then doing all those things like you said (that I’d also love to do) I’ve found other ways to enjoy myself besides relying on other people. I’ll admit I do find it quite depressing sometimes but there’s nothing you or I can do about it - the past is the past and may it stay there. So if you really can’t do all those things, maybe try and look forward to other things in life? It’s never too late to try and put yourself out there if it really matters that much to you but I know it’s difficult. I hope this made some sense and sorry if I’m sort of stepping on toes but I really hope you find some way to be happier :smile:

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betabarker

12

if ur not having fun might as well work loads or get rly good at music/ sport so u can enjoy uni (for anyone in mid teens reading this)

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

There's no point fretting on something you can't change. Focus on now, if university isn't something that's going well then consider if you want to continue with it or if you want do something else

Try to find work

Original post by Anonymous

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

Heyy, im 18 so not too far off from yourself, I feel similar in a sort. ive never been partying or clubbing or done anything most teens have done ( covid was a ***** tbf ) and although i have had bfs in the past , they have both ended after about a year. i understand your anxiety, i have terrible social anxiety as well, but i came to a realisation last year of , i can literally be or do whatever the hell i want, and at the end of the day it wont really matter. from then on i kinda just faked it until i made it ( well still making it ) and im working everyday on trying to be better. what im trying to say is, dont see it as a waste, mental health is a super important thing and if u like millions of others struggle with uni and friends and bfs and overall socialisng then be proud that u have still managed to work through it. I think your doing pretty good so do with that info as you will ! xxxx

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username5867389

17

Ur 19, I feel like that at 18 too sometimes. But wow r u jus gonna sit there and stress even more about it or u gonna go do something fun. You dnt wanna be in your 30s complaining about your 20s etc.

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Anonymous #5

Original post by Anonymous

I hope you fail at university!

Dude your a bit sad arnt u ?

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Coventry University Student Ambassadors

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Original post by Anonymous

i'm 19 years old and I wish i could start my childhood over again. I wasted my teen years just being insecure about myself and never got help with my anxiety (still have not seeked help), and suffer from social anxiety. I never spent my teen years going out, enjoying life, just wasting it at home watching Netflix and worrying about everything. I'm nearly 20 and I want to cry.

even at uni, even though I have friends, I don't have a friendship group that I can do stuff with. my uni days are going down the drain too ig :frown:

also since coming to uni, I haven't even talked to the opposite gender, so I guess the concept of guy friends / having a bf won't happen lol

soz for rant

Hi there,

Hey, you are nearly 20; you still have your whole life in front of you! Nothing good & productive will come out of blaming yourself for your teen years. My advice is to put yourself out there and be courageous enough to meet and speak to new people. That, if done, will enhance your social skills and decrease your social anxiety. A good way to start is to see what societies there are in your university and if you find some of them interesting - join it! That is an excellent opportunity to meet new people and develop your social skills.

Hope that helps!

Ivaylo
BSc (Hons) Psychology
MSc Health Psychology student
Student Ambassador at Coventry University

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H8Courtship217

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be glad that as a girl, you don't have to take any action about this

wasted my teenage years.

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