I feel like I'm of very low intelligence, so I will fail in life

Hi there, Let me start by saying you've done great, you've achieved a hell of a lot and you're clearly incredibly bright and intelligent. However, and I'm reading between the lines here, what do YOU actually want? To be academically successful? To have lots of friends? To have money? To please your Dad? Obviously we would all say we want all of it, of course we do but in reality we can't always have them all, especially not all at once and I suspect that's where you're struggling.

Perhaps just take a step back and think for a minute, You've been successful and won awards but how does that make you feel? Are you proud of yourself and does it drive you want to work harder, longer and do it again? Does it make your Dad proud and you love that feeling so you do it all again to hang on to that feeling for longer? Do these awards actually open doors or more to the point are they opening the doors you want open?


I don't know much about your field but it sounds like you would suit a career in research, does that genuinely interest you? It sounds to me that you may have fallen out of love with the subject which is why it gets tougher to maintain. If that is the case that is ok, regardless of what you might think others might say. Alternatively, you have your experience and qualifications, that can't be taken away from you so why not go and be really bold, do something very different of a couple of years to break away from this cycle? Go and work abroad perhaps? Join the military (as an officer you're not in it for life despite what many think.) This could open up your horizon's and offer you a wage, people, friends and new experiences. You might end up taking a new path or you might miss it and come back refreshed and ready to go again.

Finally, on a practical note - get outside and get moving. Go for a long walk, if you need a purpose, then go to a coffee shop. Exercise is good for the soul and the body and it allows you space and thinking time. It will take an hour or so out of your day, you can find that time!

Hello, I haven't been to uni yet so i dont have the most experience but i would still like to try and give some advice.
You seem to care a great deal about your father's opinions despite how he treats you, having 4 PHDs makes you academically smart but it doesnt make you wise in matters of life and society, and i think that that's a very important thing to know. If you really think you're lazy because youre father told you so you should stop listening to him, the amount of work you put in for those exams was extreme, especially if it made you lose your friends, that much work is unhealthy and is the polar opposite of being lazy. I think you should reevaluate your position, take a simple job to support yourself, and if you still want to study in university i think you should consider a more vocational subject, as it seems you would produce better results if tasked with completing a piece of coursework instead of an exam. The most important thing to remember is that your value as a person is not determined by you academic ability, and you can be happy and successful without an academic degree. I hope this helps and i especially hope your situation improves.

Thank you for your kind message .

I'm afraid I cannot become an officer. I don't like to go into politics... But this is linked to very aggressive and unprovoked military aggression of Britain to my family origins... ( Very long time ago ). Let's not argue about it... It just happened.

In addition I have 2 physical disabilities... Which ban me from having jobs that may have night shifts.

What I truly want is a good and stable career with data analysis and numbers preferably.

Sure that's fine, The military isn't for everyone, but that aside you've told me reasons and things that stop or hold you back. Focus on what you CAN do or motivates you. Clearly you have a strong moral compass (see I've turned that into a positive trait now.) so look for employers that match that. Have you ever considered the Environment Agency? They are part of DEFRA so it's classed as a non departmental government position, They offer many posts in the fields of science and data. Once you are "in" the options for progression are exponential and many of their positions are nationally based working from home - or maybe you would consider relocating. I'm not sure I'm allowed to post links but search "Environment Agency jobs". There are lost of career entry jobs circa £25-30k that need the kind of data and analytical skills you talk about and if their business model matches your morals and ethics then you'll naturally find "your kind of people" along the way? .

I appreciate your help, man. Do you reckon you can earn 50k by your 30s? (In this field of course)