I.. don't know what to do at this point.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost an entire year now. Our 1 year starting September. There's just one issue that.. might be driving us apart. He has a really high sexual drive. I don't. Not at all. And we are long distance too. In the beginning I tried my hardest to keep up cause I didn't want to lose him. But now I've slowed down its made him angry. Angry. And I want nothing more than to talk to him about it like adults but I don't want to start crying. I don't want to be a disappointment to him. But I fear things are going that way.
Libido mismatch comes up in many long term relationships and has to be discussed and a mutually agreeable compromise found. It can lead to tension if one side consistently feels rejected, but it’s not good to get angry with a partner. I would find the right time to as you say to have an adult conversation about it
Original post by emily332332
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost an entire year now. Our 1 year starting September. There's just one issue that.. might be driving us apart. He has a really high sexual drive. I don't. Not at all. And we are long distance too. In the beginning I tried my hardest to keep up cause I didn't want to lose him. But now I've slowed down its made him angry. Angry. And I want nothing more than to talk to him about it like adults but I don't want to start crying. I don't want to be a disappointment to him. But I fear things are going that way.
He must think its porn, just get rid of him and find a guy who doesn't mind that you have a low sex drive
You must talk about it. The longer you hold the worse it gets. He is not getting enough satisfaction and you are struggling to keep him happy.
Second, crying is not a bad thing. You are emotional and you speak about an emotional issue, it is completely acceptable if you cry.
Third, stop trying to satisfy him through pain. If it hurts you (physical or emotionally) just stop it. Accept the idea you just don't fit as sexual partners.
Just talk about it all. If you can't talk about it you'd better split.
Sorry if it hurts, it is the truth.
Comparing to most girls I've talked to, I have a fairly low sexual drive, had an even lower when I was on contraceptive pills. (maybe it is a part of your problem too). It is harder to please your partner like this but it is possible to come to a compromise if you talk about it.
Second, crying is not a bad thing. You are emotional and you speak about an emotional issue, it is completely acceptable if you cry.
Third, stop trying to satisfy him through pain. If it hurts you (physical or emotionally) just stop it. Accept the idea you just don't fit as sexual partners.
Just talk about it all. If you can't talk about it you'd better split.
Sorry if it hurts, it is the truth.
Comparing to most girls I've talked to, I have a fairly low sexual drive, had an even lower when I was on contraceptive pills. (maybe it is a part of your problem too). It is harder to please your partner like this but it is possible to come to a compromise if you talk about it.
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