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am i being groomed ?

hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.
Reply 1
3 school grades between you. 14 and 17? It’s wrong. Regardless of the guys intentions, stop talking to him as he’s too old for you.
Reply 2
if you ask the question you then some part of you already knows it is
Original post by Anonymous
hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.

you're both in the wrong. 15 & 17 is wrong but you shouldn't lie about your age like that. if you keep that up and lie about being 18 when you're 16 or 17, you could get both of you in a lot of legal trouble.
Original post by Anonymous
hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.


Well, this is difficult. Why?

If you were 17/18 and he was 20/21 it would’ve been fine, but it’s not the age gap but the level of how mature you are.

He thinks you’re 15 and he’s 17 but you’re actually 14… I myself wouldn’t lie about my age just for my safety and for the other person as well. However I do understand why you lied, because he’s cute!

I wouldn’t do it personally, if you guys were both in your 20’s it would’ve been fine but it’s just the way boys and girls mature.

I would tell him your real age and see how he reacts, you can ofc still be friends since I also have friends from a couple grades lower than me however a relationship not.

Hope this helped a little x
Original post by Anonymous
hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.
Dawg you are being groomed.
Original post by Anonymous
hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.

just end it
Original post by Anonymous
hi im a 14 a freshman i was born earlier in the year so u can assume i been 14 for a while anyways thru the first week of school i saw the cutest guy ever so i decided why not ask for his social. he gave it to me and then he texted me what grade i was in and all i said was that it was legal because he's really cute so i didn't want him to give up on me ??.. anyways he said ok and later on i find out he's a senior btw he thinks i'm 15 and a sophomore, he's 17 we both have our birthdays the same month so it's not like he's abt to turn 18 anyways he's the sweetest guy i've ever met in my life and i genuinely like him a lot he already confessed that he really liked me but i've told my cousin and she believes he's just saying bs because he nows im younger and easier to manipulate and so does my friends and brother. he doesn't talk or bring up any "adult" stuff and he also doesn't do anything weird we've only ever hugged and hold hands at school but that's all. he rarely even flirts with me i guess that's why i believe he isn't grooming me but i feel he really does care about me and being genuine.
so you should defo be honest with him about your age! 15 to 17 is fairly ok but he might not be chill with you being 14 - the fact that he thinks you're 15 tells me he is not grooming you as does his behaviour. ignore ppl who are saying you are - grooming is not just any age gap relationship and people use the term far too liberally. however at your age, such a big age gap is quite a big deal! i think the first thing is to tell him the truth and see where it goes from there an maybe just have an open discussion with him about the age gap ? honesty and trust is the most important thing, but if he doesn't thing your age is a big deal and thinks 14 is fine then that's a warning sign!
Why r u lying to him when he finds out you will instantly lose him you are too young and because of your lie you both could get into legal trouble tell him the truth maybe wait till you are 17 so he is 19 or wait till you are 18 so he is 20 do it’s more legal I wouldn’t say groomed because he is trying to force you to kiss or have sex or do things you don’t want

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