should i add him on snap?

i met this guy over the summer, we got along really well and it seemed pretty obvious to me at the time that he was interested in me - on the last day of seeing him, though, he didn’t say a word to me. i assume i’m overthinking it and it was just bc we were both busy with other stuff that day, but since i left i’ve been overthinking it and am not sure he actually liked me anymore. anyway, i only have his number on a group chat, and we’ve had one interaction on there - that’s all we’ve communicated since. its been like a whole month now since the whole thing, but i just found his snap on quick add - should i add him or would that seem weird??

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Anonymous

i met this guy over the summer, we got along really well and it seemed pretty obvious to me at the time that he was interested in me - on the last day of seeing him, though, he didn’t say a word to me. i assume i’m overthinking it and it was just bc we were both busy with other stuff that day, but since i left i’ve been overthinking it and am not sure he actually liked me anymore. anyway, i only have his number on a group chat, and we’ve had one interaction on there - that’s all we’ve communicated since. its been like a whole month now since the whole thing, but i just found his snap on quick add - should i add him or would that seem weird??

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Reply 2

Zarek

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You can usually trust your instincts on these things. If you feel it’s gone cold and if he hasn’t tried to make contact either then it’s probably not a priority. No harm in making contact though, with measured expectations. On balance I would look for someone better

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Original post by Anonymous

i met this guy over the summer, we got along really well and it seemed pretty obvious to me at the time that he was interested in me - on the last day of seeing him, though, he didn’t say a word to me. i assume i’m overthinking it and it was just bc we were both busy with other stuff that day, but since i left i’ve been overthinking it and am not sure he actually liked me anymore. anyway, i only have his number on a group chat, and we’ve had one interaction on there - that’s all we’ve communicated since. its been like a whole month now since the whole thing, but i just found his snap on quick add - should i add him or would that seem weird??

tbh there's no harm in it. also bc you would be adding him through quick add it's not really a big deal, maybe it would only be weird if you added by search haha

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username6414370

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Yeah it is low risk. You can always block him if it doesn't go so well.

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i should also add - i found out coincidentally that we’re both applying to the same unis, for the same niche course, which really surprised me - part of my worry in adding him is that i don’t want to ruin anything in case we end up studying together at the same uni? i don’t know i’m probably overthinking it but i really really like this guy so i just don’t want to come across as weird and ruin my chances - thanks for all the advice though

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Anonymous #1

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i should also add - i found out coincidentally that we’re both applying to the same unis, for the same niche course, which really surprised me - part of my worry in adding him is that i don’t want to ruin anything in case we end up studying together at the same uni? i don’t know i’m probably overthinking it but i really really like this guy so i just don’t want to come across as weird and ruin my chances - thanks for all the advice though

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Original post by Anonymous

i should also add - i found out coincidentally that we’re both applying to the same unis, for the same niche course, which really surprised me - part of my worry in adding him is that i don’t want to ruin anything in case we end up studying together at the same uni? i don’t know i’m probably overthinking it but i really really like this guy so i just don’t want to come across as weird and ruin my chances - thanks for all the advice though

if u think he hasnt realised that both of u are studying the same course then i think its fine to add him on quick add and it wont come off weird. cos if u end up seeing each in the course it would be easier for u to talk to him rather than adding him and making it seem like uve done that just for him to help u. idk if that made any sense lol

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Original post by Anonymous

if u think he hasnt realised that both of u are studying the same course then i think its fine to add him on quick add and it wont come off weird. cos if u end up seeing each in the course it would be easier for u to talk to him rather than adding him and making it seem like uve done that just for him to help u. idk if that made any sense lol

oh yeah i get what you mean thanks. he does know that we’re doing the same course but thankfully i don’t think it’ll come off as trying to get help from him, our relationship wasn’t really like that if that makes any sense. i ended up adding him in the end, i’m just sooo nervous because it’s been hours and he hasn’t added me back yet - i just have to keep reminding myself that not everyone is chronically online like me haha

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

oh yeah i get what you mean thanks. he does know that we’re doing the same course but thankfully i don’t think it’ll come off as trying to get help from him, our relationship wasn’t really like that if that makes any sense. i ended up adding him in the end, i’m just sooo nervous because it’s been hours and he hasn’t added me back yet - i just have to keep reminding myself that not everyone is chronically online like me haha