Hijab?

Frankly I don't understand the relevance of religion in general in one's life. One can be moral and perfectly decent without religion. I would say sticking to my family's traditions without ever questioning them is, personally, a bad idea and it is always good to question everything around you even if it is hard to detach yourself from your roots. Frankly, I rejected largely my family's faith yet it doesn't prevent me from remembering where I come from and my heritage. Therefore, I don't think you should wear a piece of clothing out of pressure as that is not faith, that is blind following; this is just my personal opinion.

To answer this, I wanted to find answers to things people were simply accepting as part of culture. This is purely why I began reading, and educating myself on ‘why’ as opposed to ‘what’. My entire point is that it is not normal to wear the hijab in my family and I would like to. It is something that would make me proud to wear. My decision is not out of pressure, that was the whole point of this thread. However I understand where you are coming from. Blind faith is flawed, and that is why I took it upon myself to understand the spiritual dimension of Islam.

This might be a bit of a long read, but I need some advice. I am a 17-year-old Pakistani girl, and I would say that we are a fairly modern family as we live in the UK. As I go to a private school, I am constantly exposed to Western culture, such as drinking, vaping, drugs etc. It's pretty normal for everyone at my school, and I do get invited to parties, but never go as I am aware it is awful to spend your time exposed to forbidden activities. My siblings don't really pray often, perhaps 1/2 a day generally if my parents don't tell them to. My parents of course pray, read the Quran, fast. etc. I think I have always had a bigger concern about praying and reading the Quran, and I try to remain steadfast in my worship. I have read multiple books on spirituality, Sufism, and even the poetry of Attar/Rumi. To be honest, it has had a lasting effect on me, and I always feel like I am not doing enough. I gossip, my clothes are fairly modern, and most importantly, I do not wear the hijab. This has been a concern of mine for a while, and I do truly feel like it is my duty to. However, no one in my family wears it, and we are very close to our aunties/cousins. I see them a couple of times a week, and I am aware that if I were to wear the hijab, I would have to wear it in front of my male cousins. I would also say that my family is quite judgemental, and would definitely point something out if it is out of the ordinary. I just feel like it would become such a big deal, and I am honestly worried about how I would come across if I started wearing the hijab. It's hard to explain, but I don't want to be questioned and told that I am doing something 'amazing' by wearing it when it is very standard for a Muslim woman. It would just feel so awkward, and I need the confidence to begin wearing it. I also have no Muslim friends I can talk to, so again, I need some advice. Insha'allah, I am hoping to start wearing it for university, and I am looking forward to it. I'm tired of making excuses for my lack of modesty, and I desire to become a religious, well-educated woman insha'allah. Thanks for reading, I really appreciate it.

right! so i'm part-pakistani and i'm a boy but i hv 2 sisters and one of them (she's 15) has started to wear a hijab. it's only on the weekends, and she wants to progress from there in terms of wearing fully. you're also a great muslim for staying away from forbidden practices, btw! and it's great to know ur trying to learn more about ur religion, it will really aid u. i'm not that religious, but the rest of my family are, and i can sorta see where ur coming from. also having "modern" clothes is fine, so many girls are allowed to, just because you're not wearing an abaya/national dress and your clothes are more "westernized" is still ok! as long as you're modest and covering ur awrah, it shouldn't matter what ur clothes look like. ur male cousins also, if they hv any respect or dignity, should appreciate ur decision to become a better muslim and a better person. trust me, it would go ok. you'd become a better person, and you'll gain reward! i can see where ur coming from on ur family commenting on ur views, and i've learnt to simply ignore it. i got called out by my family for wearing loose clothing and how it made me look like "an unfaithful gangster." it hurt me at first, but u hv to learn to shut those thoughts out. being TOO self-conscious isn't good for anybody, and following the opinions of others is even worse. also if ur family start to call it "amazing" it's a positive and great thing! it means ur on ur way to becoming a beautiful muslim girl inshallah.

Hope this helps and that I covered everything! If there's anything else u wanna know, feel free to ask if ur comfortable! 💗❤️

I really appreciate your message, very refreshing to read 🙂 Thank you for your advice, it definitely helped!

This might be a bit of a long read, but I need some advice. I am a 17-year-old Pakistani girl, and I would say that we are a fairly modern family as we live in the UK. As I go to a private school, I am constantly exposed to Western culture, such as drinking, vaping, drugs etc. It's pretty normal for everyone at my school, and I do get invited to parties, but never go as I am aware it is awful to spend your time exposed to forbidden activities. My siblings don't really pray often, perhaps 1/2 a day generally if my parents don't tell them to. My parents of course pray, read the Quran, fast. etc. I think I have always had a bigger concern about praying and reading the Quran, and I try to remain steadfast in my worship. I have read multiple books on spirituality, Sufism, and even the poetry of Attar/Rumi. To be honest, it has had a lasting effect on me, and I always feel like I am not doing enough. I gossip, my clothes are fairly modern, and most importantly, I do not wear the hijab. This has been a concern of mine for a while, and I do truly feel like it is my duty to. However, no one in my family wears it, and we are very close to our aunties/cousins. I see them a couple of times a week, and I am aware that if I were to wear the hijab, I would have to wear it in front of my male cousins. I would also say that my family is quite judgemental, and would definitely point something out if it is out of the ordinary. I just feel like it would become such a big deal, and I am honestly worried about how I would come across if I started wearing the hijab. It's hard to explain, but I don't want to be questioned and told that I am doing something 'amazing' by wearing it when it is very standard for a Muslim woman. It would just feel so awkward, and I need the confidence to begin wearing it. I also have no Muslim friends I can talk to, so again, I need some advice. Insha'allah, I am hoping to start wearing it for university, and I am looking forward to it. I'm tired of making excuses for my lack of modesty, and I desire to become a religious, well-educated woman insha'allah. Thanks for reading, I really appreciate it.