I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with this. Making friends and finding your place at university can be a really difficult task and can take some time. I'd first suggest reaching out to your university student support and well-being services, your lecturers, and/or a local GP. They can help you to work through any negative feelings and can give suggestions for things you could try that are specific to your local area.
My other piece of advice would be to not be discouraged! Finding your people can be really difficult, but I'd focus on finding what you like to do, your studies, and bettering yourself. This way, I think you're more likely to find people who have a similar mindset and goals, which are where you find long-term friendships!
I think it's great that you've tried societies, and it's a shame that none of them worked out. Again, keep trying! Try something out that really interests you, and don't let your past experiences dishearten you. I'm personally not part of any societies, but I have found that working as a student ambassador and volunteering has given me lots of other opportunities to make friends while I'm doing something I enjoy.
As the other responses have said, maybe try to plan something with your flatmates and course mates in advance, especially if they commute and work. That way, they can plan accordingly and you can all have something to look forward to!
I hope this helps,