REALLY Bad obsession over a guy

I've know this guy for 6 years now, and I like everything about him, I constantly find myself going through his and his family's social media pages and I'm always thinking about him. I've asked him out before in 2019 but he rejected me, the way he did that was just so sweet as well. I can't stop thinking about him but I also know I should because this is really not healthy. I'm friend's with his sibling as well so I can't ask him out again because that will make things weird. I want to have a glow up because I know I'm not that good looking as of yet, but I don't know what his type of if he's taken. Someone help a girl out??

you obviously need to forgive him and move on, but I know how hard it can be. so imo the most realistic thing to do is to try really hard to learn how to love yourself as much (and even more) than you love this guy. don’t glow up only to please him. you definitely need to glow up in terms of mentality and self-perception, but do it for yourself yk. ngl im kinda in the same situation as you (i feel very insecure and i’ve been working out a lot to change the way my body look) but deep down i just know that the main changements have to be internal. also, another reason why you should really really move on is bc you can’t move to the next chapter of your life if you are still rereading the last one yk. there is probably the perfect boy for you waiting somewhere but you are intentionally sabotaging you meeting him bc of your attachement to the boy…but you’ve got this girlie, plus you deserve better for yourself 😤😤😤

In the nicest way possible, I honestly suggest either having a one off therapy session for this or going to therapy in general. I think the way you look should never indicate your worth, if you weren't for him then or now then don't try and be something for someone else otherwise you'll never feel like yourself... what you think you want and what will make you happy, once you've got it after altering so many things would fall apart. I promise you now and future you would thank you so much for not trying to be something else, step one is be happy with yourself, you are slay. Another thing I'd note is that I'm sorry and I know you're going through stress but I will say that the way you describe this obsession with this dude from my perspective is REALLY worrying. I don't know you personally but from an outsiders perspective I think I'd be really uncomfortable about the way you approach people, you're not respecting him or treating him like a human being. I think if you respected his boundaries you'd already be off to a much better start. When I hear you say "6 years now" "constantly going through his and family social media" "there was rejection" "I don't know his type and if he's taken" I honestly feel uncomfortable hearing that, as in I'd feel uncomfortable if this was happening to me. I'm sorry if what I'm saying hurts but I do want you to feel and do better, maybe start off by respecting him and his boundaries as a person (to everyone else too) and you'll start to see good things come your way naturally I promise. And there's no need to "look better or good looking" Beauty standards exist just because everyone else says they do and they never stay the same... If everyone stopped exclaiming what is and isn't perfect we'd all be a lot more comfortable and less scared, don't let it scare you and focus on being a cool ass person, I'm sure you are. C: