Did I Do The Right Thing?

Yeah, you did the right thing.

Reply 2

_Jax_

Yeah you did. But dont be a dick if she thinks shes pregnant and there is a good likelyhood of this (e.g. did she always have wacky periods?). Tell her you are there for her if shes worried about it but otherwise I wouldnt worry about her.

Reply 3

greenmuzz

2

Insist she has a test. Really. INSIST.
If she's just doing it to control you, then, hey, scott free, you're escaping a head case.
If not, you've got BIG issues to work out.
Really. MAKE HER HAVE A TEST.

Reply 4

OP

I'm not going to run away, I keep telling her to take a test but she says she's not going to be in town til Saturday. She could walk into town if she really cared, or get a bus its only 95p.

Personally I don't think she's pregnant, because for one I didnt cum and I was only inside her for a minute or two. I know there is still a chance but also she hasn't complained of swollen breasts or nauseia (if she is pregnant she would be a month and a bit gone). Also she's been out (supposedly with mates, and a lad, but she said dont worry he's gay o.O). They don't seem like the actions of a pregnant girl to me...

Anyways thanks.

Reply 5

kingslaw

14

You're male. Of course you didn't do the right thing.

Don't worry, you'll have lots of time to think about it when you're old and lonely :p:

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Reply 6

lostinfantasies

2

What girl wouldn't want her boyfriend in the same area, especially after months of distance?!

Reply 7

SB

2

Buy her one. Seriously, it's so worth knowing.
She could still be pregnant, and a lot of first-time mothers don't get morning sickness etc. so its best to check.
If she doesn't know she's probably trying to forget that she could be.
Hope it works out! :biggrin:

skevvybritt x

Reply 8

OP

Thanks but she lives two hours away (by train) and she tells me no I can't f'in come down, she has relatives comin, then next week its a friends bday etc...she has said she'll buy it herself, of course I'd buy it for her but she tries her best to keep me away...

Reply 9

jessicarabbit

8

wait a minute...your girlfriend thinks she's knocked up and your the daddy?

for some reason you seem way to chill about this....

I'd find out what the hell is up and if there's a bun in the oven before you stop communicating with her...

or you could just do the healthy thing..and ignore the situation and pretend that it doesn't exist...

just like the giant squid...

Reply 10

OP

Look lady :P

I'm not cutting all communication with her, I'm just not going out with her and not putting up with her crap. She will tell me if she's pregnant and we have it all sorted. If she doesn't tell me she is then it's her fault, she has been a totally different person recently.

Also I doubt she is pregnant, she has been so stressed and high strung lately I reckon its that.

Reply 11

Anubis

-TMG-

Thanks but she lives two hours away (by train) and she tells me no I can't f'in come down, she has relatives comin, then next week its a friends bday etc...she has said she'll buy it herself, of course I'd buy it for her but she tries her best to keep me away...

Don't mean to scare you, but Ive had this happen to me - and its something dodgy going on. Otherwise, why wouldn't you be allowed to see her? You kid yourself and think (as well as hope) "nah - no way", but I would do some investigating, cos otherwise you could get hurt! I did - and its the worst thing in the world.

O-and dont buy ANYTHING if she is acting like that.

Reply 12

OP

Thanks. I'm asking her now if she's 100% sure she wants to be with me...she's bein all quiet. I'll move on if she says goodbye...

Reply 13

Inverurie Jones

She's a nut! Get rid of her asap.

Reply 14

lil_crazyflakes

12

I think you'll do well to be rid of her. But just incase she is not lying try and encourage her to take the test before you break all contact. Even though it looks like just getting her to see you and take the test will require great effort on your part :frown:

At least then you will know, and won't have it hanging over you. Then you can make a clean break and get on with your life. At the moment she has that hold over you, this is why she probably won't take the test...well that and being scared. Make her do it, then if it's negative tell her how you feel, that it's really not working out and leave for good.
Good luck, luv lcf :smile:

Reply 15

OP

Thanks crazyflakes. I text her today at about 2pm askin if she'd been in town (I didnt wanna say did you get the test or anythin in case someone else read it). She hasnt replied and I know she takes her phone everywhere. She had enough money to text me back last night and beg me to take her back *sigh*

Reply 16

lil_crazyflakes

12

-TMG-

Thanks crazyflakes. I text her today at about 2pm askin if she'd been in town (I didnt wanna say did you get the test or anythin in case someone else read it). She hasnt replied and I know she takes her phone everywhere. She had enough money to text me back last night and beg me to take her back *sigh*

Obviously giving you the cold shoulder after what went on last night. Maybe she thinks by ignoring you like that you will come running after her. It's all mind games.However, you do need to find out about the test, so for now - be persistant no matter how evasive she is x

Reply 17

eurasianfeline

13

missing periods doesn't mean pregnancy (which we all know). girls can miss their periods by 2 months and then there...the little sbugger strikes again.

i think it's important she gets a pregnancy test, for the sake of both of you. if she really is pregnant, you two would know sooner deal with the problem earlier, whether it's abortion or keeping it, and esp. if it's abortion cos it would be dangerous if it's too late.

secondly, from what you wrote, her "reason" for giving you attitude and being all mean and nasty to you is just selfish and horrible. if she's really is pregnant, unless you put a gun against her head and forced her into sex :rolleyes:

, it's as much her responsibility as it is yours. she has no rights to blame it all on you, and if she's stressing out over missing period by merely a few days, she should take her anger out on her own nerves and not you. the fact that you put up with her after her meaningless rage is already quite a feat. even as a girl, she's one girl who i'm not standing up for.

and now that she's begging to have you back, the big question is - are you going to? if you relaly love her that much and is convinced that what she did was just a one-time thing, and that she would be the sweet gf she loved in the first place, by all means take her back. but if you have doubts, you should either sit down and talk to her face to face and sort out the issues, or just let her down gently. it is afterall between the two of you and we can only give you advice based on your story and our judgement, but the final decision is up to you, and whatever you do, just make the choice you won't regret. :smile:

Reply 18

khil

15

lostinfantasies

What girl wouldn't want her boyfriend in the same area, especially after months of distance?!

Yeh I can't understand that either :confused:

And hey TMG - well it's not like you're trying to rid yourself of responsibility - it's her who wouldn't get a test and her who doesn't want you near her - so it's her problem really.

But try and be understanding and maybe try and understand why she's acting the way she is? Cus IF she is pregnant with your kid, anyone can understand her instability and swinging moods - it's no excuse to treat you this way, but yeh just try and understand her. It must be pretty frightening for her if she is pregnant - whereas you can go free if you so choose, which is a lot less pressure on you, in a way.

Reply 19

OP