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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok I think I will try this.

    That txt message he sent me a few days ago makes me scared, I'm scared to meet up with him now...lol
    What was in the text message? We are all curious now. :yep: (well at least I am).

    All you need to do is tell him you are straight and not interested in anything more than friendship and that you found the text uncomfortable. If you cannot be honest with him as a friend the friendship isn't built on solid foundations.

    If he cannot accept that and continues to make you feel uncomfortable clearly your friendship isn't going to continue.
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    Thanks for the responses Got myself into this, so need to get myself out. I'll see how it goes :p:
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    Grab the boobs of the near by girl and he will know~
    Or just keep going and going how u love girls and stuff like that~


    Or perhaps a girl ur friend knows was joking and she herself texed u just to have fun and enjoy the uncomfortable situation?
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    Be all like "Sorry, man. not my thing."

    He'll be like "cool, my bad"

    Sorted, dude.
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    Let him catch you watching lesbian porn and be like "Oh sorry man, i just love the boobies!"
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    Gay people have a far better "gaydar" than straight people. He could well be winding you up.

    Whilst he could have a genuine crush on you, don't go down the same route as many straight people do in thinking their gay mates find them irresistable.
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    I don't think you should necessarily stop having to act camp so he won't be attracted to you. Acting that way isn't exclusive to the LGBT community, and it shouldn't be something that he uses to try and guess your own sexuality. The best, and only, thing you can do is ask if he does like you, and explain politely that nothing will ever happen. If he does like you then that is something he will have to deal with on his own, but he shouldn't be analysing your behaviour and looking for gay stereotypes in hope that you'll be gay.

    You aren't gay. He needs to be told nowt can happen. Act how you want because it's your life.
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    (Original post by Pickford)
    Next time you go out be like "God, look at the tits on that girl - they're great. I love tits. I love women. I really want to go out with a woman. A woman."
    I wanted to say this^. Good advice. Also mention that you dislike penis so he knows you're not bi :woo:

    Edit: If you don't know how to bring this up then say something along the likes of "OMG... that guy, he has a penis! :yikes: I dislike them, a lot, and definately wouldn't want one anywhhhere near my mouth!"
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    (Original post by danny d)
    This is really good advice. He might not actually fancy you at all and just be messing around - he might just be trying to provoke a reaction. i've been guilty of doing that myself in the past and i'm sure other people do it.

    But the fact that you say you act camp probably makes it more likely that he is trying to come onto you. If i were you i would just tell him exactly what you've said on here but using fluffier words (especially if he's quite sensitive); just say that you would rather he didn't write those kinds of texts etc because you find them a bit awkward because you're straight and don't fancy him. Some people on here have said you should stop acting camp but i don't think you should - you shouldn't have to change the way you behave simply because it gives off the wrong message to one of your friends.
    What he said^

    haha and "hunnybun"? Wish I knew your group... the boys in our group are the grunting variety. No fun.
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    I don't want to rude but some of the advice isn't the greatest, it's just that if you say so directly like 'by the way i'm not interested as i'm not gay' it comes across as to much and a bit snobbish, try and suggest things in a joking way, like if your around him.
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    (Original post by Gibb~)
    I don't want to rude but some of the advice isn't the greatest, it's just that if you say so directly like 'by the way i'm not interested as i'm not gay' it comes across as to much and a bit snobbish, try and suggest things in a joking way, like if your around him.
    The danger is that if it sounds too much like a joke it just doesn't get taken seriously. It's hard to say things sincerely without coming off pompous, but this is the type of thing that (I think) really should be said sincerely. It doesn't have to be a major proclamation, just a casual "by the way, in case you got the wrong impression, I'm straight".

    It depends on the situation, and how you normally talk to each other. If you think "sorry mate, this thing's for outgoing traffic only", while patting your behind, will go down well, go for it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How do I explain to him that I'm not gay and I'm not interested?
    How about "I'm not gay and I'm not interested"?
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    Haha thanks for the replies, even the funny ones :p:

    (Original post by dbmag9)
    The danger is that if it sounds too much like a joke it just doesn't get taken seriously. It's hard to say things sincerely without coming off pompous, but this is the type of thing that (I think) really should be said sincerely. It doesn't have to be a major proclamation, just a casual "by the way, in case you got the wrong impression, I'm straight".

    It depends on the situation, and how you normally talk to each other. If you think "sorry mate, this thing's for outgoing traffic only", while patting your behind, will go down well, go for it.
    I think you are right. I'll just say it in a serious but friendly and laidback fashion
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    Just let him know how you feel and do it so that he dosent seem to be hurt or something of the kind. As long as you let him know where he stands it should be fine.
 
 
 
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