how do i change my personality?

I would be hesitant about changing everything about you, there has to be some really good traits that you have, and im sure that you know them yourself if you think about them.

As for confidence there is no easy way of getting confidence, it is a gradual process that takes awhile, best way to to try and go out there and just face it head on and gradually you will feel more at home, with more confidence.

To quote Baz Luhrman, "do one thing every day that scares you".

Baz Luhrman is amazing!

I'd recommed everyone watch and listen to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ

Its such good advice about life

i don't want to change everything, i just want to be different.. i dont want to be the person who seems to lack personality and appear boring and passive. I want to be able to noit care what others think and just feel ok about being me and relaxed around others.