Argument with girlfriend - she slapped me.

Sorry, am tired as didnt sleep last night do you mean you dont see what it has to do with it in the sense about the feminist girl I knew with male friends?

I was inferring she saw herself as equal to the lads in the sense that she was just as capable as doing things as the men, therefore she was a feminist as she believed in equality, which in this sense meant getting drunk and being able to see the attractiveness in women(she wasnt lesbian)

I wouldnt say I was personally ignorant of feminism, yet my first experience of feminism was around the time I turned 12 and these feminists(they even called themselves that) were basically the "crazy ones" in the sense that everything was about finding a way to get one over on men and talk about how women are superior and men are useless.

There was this guy who worked as a manager in a cafe that was a drop in for people with mental health issues, even things like depression and he fell in love with a nurse at the hospital but the rules are people like that cant date so they grassed him up(and admitted it with big grins on their faces) then threw him a leaving party where in the speech said they would never let a man become high up in the staff ever again!

Which was proven when they started getting people on work experience from college and uni which were all female, and the main thing was when my dad applied for the managerial position, was hugely qualified, liked by the customers and the other staff bar the feminist high up ones but wasnt even given an interview and they self promoted one of their other feminist friends to the position who had no experience and was hated by the clients!

My dad took it to the employment tribunal and won and was in local papers at the time.

Needless to say that all of a sudden within a week or so a new male work experience person came on and he said on his first day that he was meant to be going somewhere else but they changed it at last minute with this girl in his class.

So I have personally seen and experienced the stereotype, in fact far more than once so those sort of feminists do exist.

Good post Neon, bit of rep for you there.

Why does the gender of the person administering the slap come into it? Have you not heard of gender equality?

That was really rude of her, especially if she didn't offer to pay for the cancellation. Did she?
You two had the prior plans, and they weren't just something minor.

Maybe she didn't really mean to slap you, and just lost it or whatever. Is she always that emotional? Leave it for a few days and tell her how you feel. Then see.

My girlfriend came over this afternoon, thought we'd have a nice day in...until she casually tells me that she's effectively cancelling the plans we'd already made because it's her friends birthday party.

I have booked a trip to paris to stay there for 3 nights and she knows about this plan for a month now. I'm covering all the expenses, it's all coming out of my wallet. Not only am I really disappointed that she's choosing a friend's birthday party over spending a weekend away with me (although I wouldn't mind IF my plan was flexible, which it isn't because it's booked so it has to be cancelled).

She told me I can cancel the bookings, which is true...but then I'm charged a damn cancellation fee from the hotel which is a lot of money, WASTED money! Naturally I got really angry about this and I hated that she's not even considering 1. my feelings and 2. my money!

We started arguing a lot and had a heated exchange and I said "piss off to your friend then I can't stand the sight of you" which I agree was very rude of me but she slapped me across the face for it!!!

I was just shocked and froze, never expected her to do this and she never has in all the time we've been together (it's a long relationship). I was SO angry I was just fuming and I think she got scared just from the look on my face, so I told her to leave before this gets from bad to worse.

She kept ringing and texting after but I switched the phone off and went to sleep so that I can cool off instead of having a slagging match via text.

Now I don't know what to do, I said some bad things but I can't believe she slapped me. I feel so disrespected and although I really love her this is just something I can't let pass. I'm facing the dilemma now, to follow my feelings and forgive her and just put it behind us or to follow my principles and stand up for my dignity by leaving her.

I feel so annoyed that all this has come about from something that should have been a romantic trip away, instead it's led to this disaster.

I really need some advice on how to approach the situation please, would appreciate your views on what would be the right thing to do because I don't want to act irrationally in this anger.

thanks.

I think the word is Eirophile. (sorry to be pedantic!)