In love with best friend...Do i tell her?

Cutting contact without giving her a reason is a bit harsh tbh...

I wouldn't tell her, she'd probably understand but think of what else you'd ruin.. potentially your friendship with her and her relationship ??

On of my friends did this to me, he felt the same way you do and we were really close, he cut me out for the whole summer just completely ignoring me and it was horrible, I had lost my best friend and had no idea why. He did eventually tell me and i was so glad when he did, i didnt feel that way about him but i was glad that i hadnt done anything wrong, we are now closer than ever as just friends and he now has a girlfriend who is lovely. I would say tell her from my experiance, she will be happy that you can still be friends (or more?) and if you are as close as you say she will be fine with you telling her and not tell anyone. but obviously with me it was a guy so there wasnt the worry of sexuality.

She's pretty innocent, so I doubt she'd be fine with the idea! But thats really helpful nevertheless, thanks.

I have written a text out saying how Im really sorry but dont think we can be friends anymore because Ive started to have "feelings" towards her and think I need to move on, saved in my drafts though! I dont know what to dooo...I want to tell her but don't want her spreading it around

Riiight so:

I first met her 3 years ago in year 12, I had started a sixth form where I literally didn't know a single person so we grew really close really quickly. We've been on 4 holidays together and each one I'd started noticing how I started to feel more and more attracted to her, especially when it was just us alone like in the hotel rooms etc where we shared a bed.

We've just started at the same uni (its a local one), after having a gap year together. She's now sort of started seeing a guy and although Im glad shes happy, I'm also really hurt and jealous at the same time. We've drifted apart a lot since starting uni, and I decided about 4 weeks ago to just get rid of her from my life as its been driving me nuts.

I deleted her off facebook as she'd started cranking up the soppy status', and she sent a message asking why, I ignored it. She sent me a text a day later asking if anything was wrong, I ignored it. We then went about 2 weeks without any communication until today when she text asking if I'm ok etc

I just want her out my life so I can get over whatever it is I feel for her, should I just text her how I'm feeling?

Only thing is I wouldn't want her to tell anyone as I'm not a lesbian, I just fell in love with her over the years as I was so close to her and noone else. I think I may be bi, but I've never had a boyfriend or girlfriend because of how I feel about her. I don't want rumours spreading that arn't true and I'm not 100% I can trust her anymore not to tell anyone.

I don't know what to do, but I just want her out my life and to stop texting me and communicating with me so I can move on from this. We do get on the same bus to go to uni and live in the same village so will no doubt see her soon, will texting her the truth just make things super awkward?

But then because I've been ignoring her, they'll already be awkward!

Arrrrgh

I suppose it is different when its two girls, but you must feel in some way comfortable to tell her simply because of how close you were?
she may already have some idea too, by the way you act with her, with me it was always in the back of my mind that he might like me.
I wouldnt send a text if i were you though, because its the sort of thing that will take a bit of explaining and telling her face to face might help her realise how serious you are making her less likely to tell anyone. also the obvious fact that someone else could easily read the text, the amount of times I've got in trouble from people reading my texts when im not looking.

She might have some idea, this sounds really weird but when we hug or even slightly touch I go all stiff (excuse the pun haha) so she can probably sense it. And whenever she talks about celebs that are hot i always disagree, even if i do think they're hot purely out of jealousy!

I would like to think she wont be weird about it, but then its a pretty weird scenario so Im not sure how a person would react. Obviously I clearly like some girls so I can't use how I would feel as an example! Thing is I only like girly girls which I would say I am myself, and although I know a few lesbians, they're really not the type of girl I find attractive so I can't imagine ever being in a girl-girl relationship.

I definately couldn't tell her to her face, we've really drifted since we started uni and I don't feel I know her well enough anymore to tell her something like that, wouldnt know how she'd react. But that doesn't stop me having the same feelings towards her which I thought it would over time...

I'm sorry for bugging you, I just have literally noone in my life who I feel comfortable enough to tell...depressing!

She might have some idea, this sounds really weird but when we hug or even slightly touch I go all stiff (excuse the pun haha) so she can probably sense it. And whenever she talks about celebs that are hot i always disagree, even if i do think they're hot purely out of jealousy!

I would like to think she wont be weird about it, but then its a pretty weird scenario so Im not sure how a person would react. Obviously I clearly like some girls so I can't use how I would feel as an example! Thing is I only like girly girls which I would say I am myself, and although I know a few lesbians, they're really not the type of girl I find attractive so I can't imagine ever being in a girl-girl relationship.

I definately couldn't tell her to her face, we've really drifted since we started uni and I don't feel I know her well enough anymore to tell her something like that, wouldnt know how she'd react. But that doesn't stop me having the same feelings towards her which I thought it would over time...

I'm sorry for bugging you, I just have literally noone in my life who I feel comfortable enough to tell...depressing!