Men: how do you feel about your girlfriend's sexual history?

What about if she's slept with other girls?

Good question, mine actually HAS slept with other girls, but I still would hate thinking about it, but as much as I like a bit of girl on girl, I don't like the idea of ANYONE having ANY of my OH :P

Reply 21

paella

14

Friends with benefits would make me recoil a bit - I guess I'd imagine she'd be more likely to cheat, totally irrational and I'd jump at the chance of friends with benefits for myself, but the worry would still be there.

Reply 22

*Dreaming*

15

Maybe he feels insecure because you've been with more people than him? As long as you never cheated on anyone then he shouldn't be worried about it....it was before you even met him so why should he be upset.

Reply 23

Pindar

16

I can't say I would honestly care, I'm only my girlfriend's 2nd but regardless, why would it matter in the slightest?

That's the past, what matter's is the future.

Reply 24

.Ali.

3

Original post by sk007_644

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OP he'll come to terms with it. Guys often like to feel dominant, and the fact that you've had more sexual partners than him has probably bruised his ego.

Reply 25

Rancorous

13

Obviously when you come into a relationship in your 20s your partner is going to have a sexual history - and you know this going in but it's not nice thinking about other guys someone you love has been with and things they've done.

9 is quite high for 21...I'm a hypocrite as I've slept with more, I know but I guess deep down if it's someone I love, whilst I hope she has had some experience, the fewer guys who have jizzed in and on her and done things to her which I haven't done yet, the better. It's selfish, but it's not something I would ever tell anyone including my partner about - I'd just keep it to myself because it's my insecurity. My current girlfriend has been with 8 partners including me, I get over it.

But things which really bother me are;

- A past history of cheating - especially if on more than one person and how long ago it was - people do change, but not that quickly - it makes me feel insecure that I can't trust her completely..

- No condoms on one night stands etc...not responsible sex - just letting her horniness get the better

- If her past boyfriends/ guys she's had sex with/hooked up with/friends with benefits are still in her life as friends

- Meeting up with exs/guys she's slept with etc without telling me in advance

Reply 26

When will I know?

9

I think a lot of guys have a problem with it ...whereas majority of girls dont.

The past is the past...unless they've slept with a prostitute/escort...which is a turn off.

Reply 27

jessie6693

7

Whether it's 9 or 90 he has no right to judge you, or be upset with you, for your sexual past. What you did before you met has no bearing on your relationship, if you are responsible and practice safe sex then his being upset is ridiculous.
He is being irrational, childish and frankly a little bit sexist.

Reply 28

TheWorld!

6

Original post by DumpOrStay?

She was a virgin - so very pleased :smile:

so did your gf finaly have sex with you?

Reply 29

Anonymous #5

i think people just don't like the idea of dating a 'slag' because they dont want their girlfriend to have been around or have a reputation.
one of my friends is 17 and has slept with over 10 people, and she did actually lie to her current boyfriend because most were ONS or with people who are in a relationship (she slept with someone who has a fiancee and child!) because she knew he'd freak out.

Reply 30

Indian_Prince

15

Original post by Anonymous

I've been with my boyfriend 6 months, I'm 21 and he is 25. Recently he asked me if I'd had a one night stand, I didn't want to lie so I said yes. He got really upset about it and generally my whole sexual history ended up coming out.

I've slept with 9 people inc. my boyfriend - 4 relationships, 2 one night stands and 3 friends-with-benefits scenarios. Before my current boyfriend I hadn't had sex for a year, it was mainly a phase I went through as a fresher (3 years ago.) He was really upset about this and said that most men would be. I still don't understand why. I kept trying to get him to explain but I just didn't get it. I know that's (probably?) more than average, but it's not like it's ABSOLUTELY RIDIC. He's slept with 5 people but 1 of them was a 5-year relationship which I think explains difference.

It's not like we're going to split up or anything and he says he'll get over it. But I still don't really get it or why it bothers him so much and I was wondering if someone could try to explain. Thanks!

i think it does hurt cose if its someone u love soo much then you cant really imagine them being like that with anyone else, he'll get over it since hes slept with others too, its probably just the whole image thing (hard to get out of your mind once its in) like he may have seen you as not that type of person from the start and then it proved him wrong but dw atleast youve been honest with him.

Reply 31

Indian_Prince

15

Original post by jessie6693

Whether it's 9 or 90 he has no right to judge you, or be upset with you, for your sexual past. What you did before you met has no bearing on your relationship, if you are responsible and practice safe sex then his being upset is ridiculous.
He is being irrational, childish and frankly a little bit sexist.

i dont think he is =/ sex is a intimate thing if you go around just having it with whoever then it does say alot about that person, and it hurts most when it contradicts the image of them you have, but yeh i wouldnt be suprised if she was the one that was upset about him too but since theyve done the same thing its a bit more hypoctiry lol

Reply 32

Lord Jon

21

I have nothing to worry about. If her history did go back with other people we would hve a problem. She would be a bit too handy if you get my drift :wink:

Reply 33

Jessica20

4

It shouldnt even matter if he loves you, whether youve been with no one before or 1000 men.

Really though 9 is nothing :smile:

Ive done more than that on a 2 week holiday in Ibiza. What happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza...

Reply 34

4ttari

5

Obviously he's not exactly going to cheer up after you told him that you been banged by 9 young bucks.

9 is still alot though for a 21 year old female, damnn actually that's f*****.

Basically he's pissed off about the fact that 9 men inseminated you before he did and it has got nothing to do with whether he's got 'more' than you or not.

Freakin hell, where's this world heading to?

Reply 35

Jakelee

2

Original post by Jessica20

It shouldnt even matter if he loves you, whether youve been with no one before or 1000 men.

Really though 9 is nothing :smile:

Ive done more than that on a 2 week holiday in Ibiza. What happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza...

You've done more than that in two weeks!!

Damn women have it so easy its unbelievable.

OP deep down he feels jealous because he hasn't ****ed as many people as you have but is older.

Reply 36

Indian_Prince

15

Original post by Jessica20

It shouldnt even matter if he loves you, whether youve been with no one before or 1000 men.

Really though 9 is nothing :smile:

Ive done more than that on a 2 week holiday in Ibiza. What happens in Ibiza stays in Ibiza...

i dont get your mentality if you fall in love one day and i actually mean love then would u be happy to know that the person you love has had meaningless sex with soo many people that he dont cant even keep count and you may just end up like one of them to him? Love is purity not meaningless sex with people all the time having sex with soo many people can say alot about a person, it actually hurts when your in love with someone and you find out they are like that cose before u may never think that theyve had sex with soo many people and you have a particular view about them, when you find out the image is shattered and you question you view on the person, maybe youve not fallen in love yet ( love not meant as sex) .

Reply 37

*Lollo*

8

It is not a high number, especially not people who do in fact date a bit and meet people. When you are in your twenties, you come with some sexual history, usually.

For me, it would bother me more if a guy had a dodgy history than his actual number. Unprotected sex, prostitutes, cheating etc. I obviously don't like the idea of a man I am in love with in bed with another woman, but such is life. If you know you're sensitive about this stuff, don't ask. Women have kind of ruined things for others though, 90% of girls out there lie when their bf ask. "It's less than 10" is the classic. So when an honest girl comes along, they might be taken aback.

Reply 38

Rancorous

13

Original post by Manesh2468

i dont get your mentality if you fall in love one day and i actually mean love then would u be happy to know that the person you love has had meaningless sex with soo many people that he dont cant even keep count and you may just end up like one of them to him? Love is purity not meaningless sex with people all the time having sex with soo many people can say alot about a person, it actually hurts when your in love with someone and you find out they are like that cose before u may never think that theyve had sex with soo many people and you have a particular view about them, when you find out the image is shattered and you question you view on the person, maybe youve not fallen in love yet ( love not meant as sex) .

I agree but she's not alone. Like someone said above, girls don't have as much as a problem with it as men tend to - a lot of girls seem to see their sexual past as having nothing to do with you...My girlfriend has said to me 'you have no right to be angry or upset about my past, the past is in the past' - she had cheated on all three of her ex boyfriends, cheating twice in the last 5/6 months before she met me, had met up with a guy she had slept with without telling me, then lied to me initially when it came up in conversation with friends and told me he was a guy she'd just pulled AND had sex with a series of one night stands without using condoms and hadn't gotten herself tested while we were having sex without condoms.

But 'the past is the past'...

Reply 39

*Lollo*

8

Original post by Rancorous

I agree but she's not alone. Like someone said above, girls don't have as much as a problem with it as men tend to - a lot of girls seem to see their sexual past as having nothing to do with you...My girlfriend has said to me 'you have no right to be angry or upset about my past, the past is in the past' - she had cheated on all three of her ex boyfriends, cheating twice in the last 5/6 months before she met me, had met up with a guy she had slept with without telling me, then lied to me initially when it came up in conversation with friends and told me he was a guy she'd just pulled AND had sex with a series of one night stands without using condoms and hadn't gotten herself tested while we were having sex without condoms.

But 'the past is the past'...

If she is lying in this relationship, that is not the past. The cheating might be in the past (might also not...) but honesty to your partner is crucial. Are you still with this woman?

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