My ex yelled at me so badly I was having to hold the phone away from my ear :S

Back away, he's a tool.
Imagine if one of your mates told you that this was happening to them, what advice would you give?

That I'm being crazy staying friends with him? I just wish I could understand he was literally so lovely for over a year!

Exactly! It's just like when a relationship turns abusive surely? One day they just flip and that's it. I mean nobody would ever go with that person if they knew they were like that. Seriously, don't contact him, even delete from facebook so you're not always looking at what he's doing. It'll help, promise

Oh, and he doesn't deserve an apology, if anyone does it's you.

Sounds like a male version of my ex. These people with such non existent personality go through that change when they hit uni, they literally absorb the mentality of the hysterical masses and lose all the individuality you thought they had. Suddenly your relationship means nothing and suddenly they become a completely different person.

It's traumatic but you have to cut all ties and move on.

Yes sounds like the same situation, I really did think he was an indivdual. He had such strong morals before - would stick up for things against his friends, went to protests because he felt so strongly for what he believed in - he was the leader rather than the sheep and that's why I fell for him. He was even a vegetarian for years because he didn't even want to harm animals ,although apparently he's started eating meat now... I'm sorry you had to go through that with your ex!

My ex didn't have any of the traits you mention there so it shouldn't have been a surprise really. She had no personality tbh, everything from the university she went to to the career she has chosen were just things her mum told her to do. When she was with me she was apparently a socialist and wanted to go into human rights law, I wouldn't be surprised if all that has changed according to whatever her current boyfriend is into.

And yes when freshers started she became completely absorbed in that world. She accused me of being paranoid and controlling too, at the time I apologised but on reflection there was really only one or two occasions when I ever complained that she wasn't spending enough time with me.

Anyway, you learn from this that you need to find people with strong, stable personalities if you are expecting anything long term from them. That can be hard to find at this age sadly.

In my point of view relationships and uni don't work

You are crazy trying to be friends with someone who cheated on you so soon after he left you for another girl. Plus why are you apologising to him?! He should be apologising to you!! And as for the friendship thing i couldnt be friends with a cheating lying fool like him, and him shouting at you should really be the last straw. You wont get over him while your still in contact with him, you need the clean break to get over him. To be honest i wouldnt trust this prick again considering how he behaved.

This is obviously the case. Almost everyone I've ever known who went to uni already in a relationship broke up within the first few months. Fools.

Well you could say almost every relationship breaks up - what's your point? If two people are really commited to eachother, they'll make it work. They just need to realistic that it'll be a huge adjustment and be sensitive to eachother adjusting. My sister and her husband did.

You're right. That's why I don't do relationships.

If people want to try to "commit" to each other at such a young age, well. IMO, they're just wasting their lives.