Nude photo & suspicious boyfriend
Please keep anonymous.
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
It's a weird one. He might hate the idea of other guys seeing you in a way only he should, and he could be searching for it to make sure it's taken down. You might want to consider if you'd be willing to take it down for him.
Alternatively, if you haven't done much sexual yet, it could be to see what you look like
I would make it clear to him that you're his, and only he gets to see you/be with you. If he's been hurt he's probably insecure about stuff like that, and you need to tell him things like this rather than assuming he realises them.
Alternatively, if you haven't done much sexual yet, it could be to see what you look like
I would make it clear to him that you're his, and only he gets to see you/be with you. If he's been hurt he's probably insecure about stuff like that, and you need to tell him things like this rather than assuming he realises them.
This is tough ...
I understand you may feel a little shaken by your situation ...
Of course, we are here to help.
But understand our side. I think we'd all like to see a proof of this picture, you see, we are a little suspicious of your claim here
I understand you may feel a little shaken by your situation ...
Of course, we are here to help.
But understand our side. I think we'd all like to see a proof of this picture, you see, we are a little suspicious of your claim here
Original post by Hal.E.Lujah
It's a weird one. He might hate the idea of other guys seeing you in a way only he should, and he could be searching for it to make sure it's taken down. You might want to consider if you'd be willing to take it down for him.
Alternatively, if you haven't done much sexual yet, it could be to see what you look like
I would make it clear to him that you're his, and only he gets to see you/be with you. If he's been hurt he's probably insecure about stuff like that, and you need to tell him things like this rather than assuming he realises them.
Alternatively, if you haven't done much sexual yet, it could be to see what you look like
I would make it clear to him that you're his, and only he gets to see you/be with you. If he's been hurt he's probably insecure about stuff like that, and you need to tell him things like this rather than assuming he realises them.
Thanks for the advice!
I've tried to take it down but it hasn't worked. Meanwhile it's just floating about the internet. He knows what I look like! He just seems not to believe me. I'm just worried this will cause more problems in the future + lack of trust (although I've been honest!).
Original post by 2ndClass
why did you post naked pictures of yourself online?
In an attempt to receive validation on my appearance. I was feeling extremely insecure. Horrible excuse I know, but it seemed logical at the time. I know realise how silly I've been.
Not sure I see his problem here. So you had a life before your boyfriend and made a choice you don't stand by, big deal. It's not an illegitimate child or serial killer uncle you neglected to tell him about. He should just get over it
Original post by Anonymous
Please keep anonymous.
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
He probably just wants to find it to jerk off.
Original post by MAINE.
He probably just wants to find it to jerk off.
Ahaha he's seen it.
Original post by JCC-MGS
Not sure I see his problem here. So you had a life before your boyfriend and made a choice you don't stand by, big deal. It's not an illegitimate child or serial killer uncle you neglected to tell him about. He should just get over it
That's the thing he doesn't mind the picture he just thinks I might be lying and there's more I'm "hiding" from him. I'm just worried this will spiral into years of suspiciousness and mistrust (slightly overdramatic).
Original post by JCC-MGS
Not sure I see his problem here. So you had a life before your boyfriend and made a choice you don't stand by, big deal. It's not an illegitimate child or serial killer uncle you neglected to tell him about. He should just get over it
I genuinely do have an uncle who was a serial killer... should this be something I have a moral obligation to tell people about? I don't tend to tell people as it's not the sort of thing I bring up in conversations, but should it be? I'm slightly worried now.
As for the OP, I don't know what your boyfriend's issue is. It's much more common than you might think for people to have naked photos of themselves on the Internet, and I don't see the problem with it anyway. Nothing bad's going to come of it, and you are no different for doing it.
If you haven't been sexual with each other yet, then he's probably just trying to find it in order to see how sexy you are!
Seriously? There are fully naked pictures of me online, and it has never even occurred to me that this is something I should run by my boyfriend, seeing as they're from before we were together.
I would just completely ignore the issue unless he brings it up. Don't add anything else to the story that you haven't already said. If he does bring it up, give him some reassurance, but don't apologise for your past.
I would just completely ignore the issue unless he brings it up. Don't add anything else to the story that you haven't already said. If he does bring it up, give him some reassurance, but don't apologise for your past.
Just print it off fold it up, make it look like a card and write:
"For when I'm far away or not around, here's something to keep you going."
In all seriousness, it may have been a stupid decision to post it online, but it's before you met him. He doesn't need to know every little detail about your past.
"For when I'm far away or not around, here's something to keep you going."
In all seriousness, it may have been a stupid decision to post it online, but it's before you met him. He doesn't need to know every little detail about your past.
Original post by Anonymous
Please keep anonymous.
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
Why did you tell him if you don't want him to see them? And why don't you want him to see them? I'd be suspicious if someone I was having sex with didn't want me to see naked pictures of them, are they porn pictures or something?
To be fair, if I was with someone who told me they had a naked picture online, I'd be curious about it and would want to see it too!
Original post by Anonymous
Please keep anonymous.
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I recently confessed to him that I had posted an almost naked picture of myself on the internet before we got together. It's not something I'm particularly proud of but he found out by asking me and has now become very suspicious since I didn't tell him on my own. I refused to disclose the location of the picture and he is determined to find it, and today I found that he has been going through my stuff and looking for it online and on my computer (search history). I told him the entire truth and that it's in the past - he says he believes me but is still slightly suspicious that I'm not telling him everything and that I need to give it time to go away. I don't know what to do to convince him that I'm being honest and that he has nothing to worry about since he was cheated on a lot in the past and has some trust issues. Should I speak to him AGAIN or let it go and see what happens?
Be empathetic. Don't be a liar, just tell him, instead of trying to cover it up, it will only hamper your relationship further.
Original post by Hopple
Why did you tell him if you don't want him to see them? And why don't you want him to see them? I'd be suspicious if someone I was having sex with didn't want me to see naked pictures of them, are they porn pictures or something?
No they're not porn pictures at all and he has already seen them. I just didn't want to make a big deal of where they are on the internet exactly as a) it would take quite a bit of research from me to find them and b) I think it's useless if he keeps dwelling over the issue. There's just no point.
Original post by mathslover
Be empathetic. Don't be a liar, just tell him, instead of trying to cover it up, it will only hamper your relationship further.
I haven't lied about anything though.
Original post by kat91s
There are fully naked pictures of me online,.
Pictures or it didn't happen.
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Original post by Anonymous
No they're not porn pictures at all and he has already seen them. I just didn't want to make a big deal of where they are on the internet exactly as a) it would take quite a bit of research from me to find them and b) I think it's useless if he keeps dwelling over the issue. There's just no point.
Why mention them then?
Did you show them to him straight after you mentioned them to him? If not, surely you can see why he's reacting like this, he'd assume there are more pictures out there that are so hardcore you're reluctant to show him. I am of course assuming he's seen you and 'done things' to you naked.Quick Reply
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