- Good bj
(I'll spare the details, but for now I will say make sure you have a "routine" or at least the basic outline of one if you're with a new guy who you've never given head to. Different guys enjoy different things, you'll know by their reactions to certain things you do.)
- Long foreplay
(Or short, depending on how much time you have
)
- Panting + noise if relevant to the amount of work either of you are putting in.
- Arching your back
in the right moments. (I'll be happy to explain this to people who don't realise/desperately want to know if you PM me.)
- Multitasking
(Don't get me started on the various interpretations of this)
- Knowing the anatomy.
- Erogenous zones are very important.
- Depending on your relationship with the person: Act like you like it.
- Actively engage
- Like a lot of people say, don't just lie there. Think of it as a workout.
These are just a few off the top of my head; I could go on but I want to spare the details because I don't want my post becoming too graphic.
Back in Spring/Summer I went out with someone for a very short time, when we decided to part ways he asked if he could "recommend me" to a friend of his so even though this comment really creeped me out, I guess I was doing something right!
Sex is like driving or sport or cooking or knitting -- there's theory, and then there's practice. The better you know the body, the more likely it is that you'll know exactly what you're doing. I like giving a good performance, so to me, the sex is all about the man, even if they're doing something like cunnilingus (which is something
very few men get right!), I still think of that (bj) being for the man and so I pretend to enjoy it if I have to. Understanding that sex is a very big thing for a lot of guys is really important. It's not just fun and games for them, with quite a few of them, their confidence levels are pretty reliant on their performance.