Would this approach be what girls could consider creepy?

Ok so I've seen a girl around Sixth Form who is really stunning and would like to get to know her. When school starts on Monday I'm hoping to approach her and just generally talk, but I haven't approached many girls before that I don't know and I'm worried I may be awkward, which could come across as creepy to girls.

What I was thinking of was saying something like "Hi, I've seen you around and I think your really pretty, and I just wanted to say hi"
Would the 'I've seen you around' part be creepy? And would there be something similar I could say which could be better? This probably isn't such a big deal lol, but just wanted to know what people thought.

Thanks :smile:

Reply 1

russellsteapot

16

If she finds you attractive, she'll find it endearing and lovely.

If she doesn't, you'll be the worst creepy creep in the history of creepdom.

Choice of wording doesn't really come into it unfortunately. The direct approach is either a big win or a big fail and it's largely down to how the recipient of your affections views you. Bear in mind, you're approaching her entirely based on her appearance, so it's not unfair to imagine that it's the first thing she'll judge you on.

You can make yourself sound more confident, and change the words to suit how you speak, which might make a better impression. But there aren't many other ways of randomly walking up to someone and saying they're very pretty.

Reply 2

MagicNMedicine

20

Yeah don't say that it sounds creepy. If you are really good looking yourself and the talk of all the Sixth Form girls then you might get away with it but if you're just average and don't have loads of female admirers then saying that will immediately put you in a box in her mind which is [unwanted admirer: avoid all contact].

You need to find some form of relevant conversation or find some kind of social occasion where you can just start making conversation and it doesn't look weird. When you go up to make conversation with someone you fancy its got to be natural and easy flowing conversation, if you just turn up and start talking at her there will be awkward silences and the interaction does more harm than good.

I suggest playing the long game and waiting till you get an appropriate opportunity. A few months back a really attractive girl started where I work, she works on the same floor as me but not the same section directly so I didn't really have an "in" to speak to her and it would have felt weird to just turn up and start chatting. Then one time it was someone's leaving do, people tend to leave at different times depending on when they've finished whatever they are doing, and as I was nearly finishing I saw she was packing up too so I thought I'd take the off chance that she might be going to it and I went up and asked her, she was, so we walked down together, got drinks at the bar together and sat together chatting for ages: the interaction felt kind of normal and social and was easy. Now that ice has been broken we always chat if we bump in to each other in the corridor etc. Not sure if I'm going to necessarily pursue it by asking her out but I feel like the door is open now, I can email her and ask if she fancies going down for lunch together etc.

Reply 3

mimi112

Original post by russellsteapot

If she finds you attractive, she'll find it endearing and lovely.

If she doesn't, you'll be the worst creepy creep in the history of creepdom.

Choice of wording doesn't really come into it unfortunately. The direct approach is either a big win or a big fail and it's largely down to how the recipient of your affections views you. Bear in mind, you're approaching her entirely based on her appearance, so it's not unfair to imagine that it's the first thing she'll judge you on.

You can make yourself sound more confident, and change the words to suit how you speak, which might make a better impression. But there aren't many other ways of randomly walking up to someone and saying they're very pretty.