parents want me to stay home for uni...

my brother is in his final year at uni and lets just say my parents arent pleased with him he barely calls or visits always has arguments with them and is a messy person
About a year ago i realised my parents had no intention of letting me live away for uni and i was so shocked but i know no there is no changing their minds
they WANT me to apply to only london unis so that i stay home and keep an eye on me and dont become wreckless like my brother how can i persuade them not to treat me like a prisoner and hate me just because i want to experience life and not stay home all my life?

You are an adult now and they can't make you do anything. Just do what you want to do.

no offence; Are you Asian?

ahh YOU GUESSED IT my dad is not fond of equality my brother gets to do everything and juat follows scholars who say 'women should be at home arranged marriage not let out' blahblahblah WAKE UP WE ARE ALL EQUAL

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ahh actually im 15 but i just dont know if they will budge by the time im 18 because theyre SO adament right now and its scary u dont want to be the one to ruin the family even more but they just wont listen its incredibly frustrating

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ahh actually im 15 but i just dont know if they will budge by the time im 18 because theyre SO adament right now and its scary u dont want to be the one to ruin the family even more but they just wont listen its incredibly frustrating

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Step 1: Stop worrying about this, you're 15

Step 2:

Good reasons to stay as Home student-Save money

Terrible reasons to not move out-Please parents, not upset/anger parents, stay as child; obligations to family/toxic guilt for leaving the nest and abandoning adult family members; social anxiety, low self-esteem; fear of independence, fear of being alone, irresponsible/victim mentality/emotional maturity regression streak

Necessary evil reasons to stay as Home student-mental illness, severe disability, severe autism, etc.

Take your pick dude. I stayed at Home and although I would in NO WAY have survived moving out at present due to anxiety problems, and have benefited from repaying my finances-I am almost s insecure now I've graduated as when I was a fresher.


This may not make sense now but hopefully it will when you're a little older. Just think on it.

Wishing you all the best

I feel for you. I know tons of girls who are in that situations, some regret it now some don't mind it... you really need to explain it to them otherwise it will not get any better

You're not ruining the family, they are. And you will almost be an adult by the time you go. YOU'RE going to uni, not them.

i said that to my mum and she said dont be one of those who makes it all about you but shes the one doing that not me by making decisions for me!!! i cant win with her can i?!

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Step 1: Stop worrying about this, you're 15

Step 2:

Good reasons to stay as Home student-

i) Save money

Terrible reasons to not move out-

i) Please parents, not upset/anger parents, stay as child;

ii) obligations to family/toxic guilt for leaving the nest and abandoning adult family members

iii) social anxiety, low self-esteem

iv) fear of independence, fear of being alone, irresponsible/victim mentality/emotional maturity regression streak

Necessary evil reasons to stay as Home student-

i) mental illness

ii) severe disability

iii) severe autism, etc.

Take your pick dude. I stayed at Home and although I would in NO WAY have survived moving out at present due to anxiety problems, and have benefited from repaying my finances-I am almost s insecure now I've graduated as when I was a fresher.


This may not make sense now but hopefully it will when you're a little older. Just think on it.

Wishing you all the best

edit2: Ahh Strict Asian Parents Problems :/

Please refer to Terrible reasons to move out-ii) obligations to family/toxic guilt for leaving the nest. Of course this will be much stronger due to cultural reasons for you to overcome. But I do believe if you are mature and responsible about it, you can prove to them that you are a strong independent woman and your gender will not hold you back.

thankss
today i did not have this anywhere near my mind until i heard my parents having argument about me about an hour ago and asked my mum why they were talking about me and i realised she was on my dads sexist side she was homesick when she went to uni but that doesnt mean i will be

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I guess she just wants what's best for you, but ultimately the decision lies with you.

i do not have the intention of letting this go. why should i make my life and future career suffer just because of a stupid rule that women should stay home and remain jobless i have dreams and i will achieve them whether i have my parents support or not i dont want to have any regrets by not doing something i want to

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Tell them you're staying home but actually apply to unis outside London. Just tell them that the unis in London rejected you.