Original post by AnonymousI'm in early twenties, I have never asked a girl out, and I don't know how other guys do it.
Every day I see some girls at university or elsewhere that I would like to ask out, but... do other guys just go and talk to girls they have just met? Would it not be weird? Some guy approaching a girl, making small talk, then asking her out?
I don't think this is the way it works, I don't see other guys doing it, it certainly is not comfortable, but then, I can't see any other way.
How did others met their bf/gf?
Is it the case with most people that the guy gets to know the girl and after some time asks her out? It seems like a good way, except it doesn't work, since I don't see many people on a regular basis to get to know them. Even if I did, wouldn't it severely limit your dating pool, just dating girls you meet regularly?
I'm not often at parties, and when we get together it's usually a small gathering of friends. Meeting a girl through other friends hasn't happened either.
I'm not good at coming up with topics for conversation, but I don't have a problem talking to people I see in the few classes that I have. I honestly don't know in what situation asking a girl out can happen. And it's really bothering me, since I see girls every day in library, at university, outside on the street, everywhere! that I would like to ask out, but I just can't think of a comfortable, natural way of doing it.
Also, imagine I've asked a girl out. If the first date goes well, nor bad neither excellent, I think we're supposed to meet again (isn't that what the other person expects after an OK/good first date?), and then meet again, and then become bf/gf? And then I will forever be together with the first person I ever dated!