Having problem asking girls out

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Take advantage of social media, if you see her on Facebook or Twitter add her! You can then see if you have anything in common via her recent likes etc.

You need to know her name for that. I don't know. Would such things work? It doesn't sound much like me. I would rather approach girls in real life, but it's been problematic for me thus far.

Reply 61

The Blue Axolotl

TL;DR

You just need to be smooth and not too rash. Get to know her a bit first and then ask if she'd like to grab lunch some time.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by The Blue Axolotl

TL;DR

You just need to be smooth and not too rash. Get to know her a bit first and then ask if she'd like to grab lunch some time.

In a nutshell, the problem is I'm rarely in settings that would allow me to get to know new people/girls, and I think asking strangers might end up being awkward/weird.

Do guys usually ask girls that they see more regularly out after getting to know them to an extent or do guys most of the times chat with strangers and arrange future meetings with them?

Reply 63

The Blue Axolotl

Original post by Anonymous

Well you need to put yourself in those settings.

Reply 64

cole-slaw

Original post by Anonymous

I quite agree that socialising more will help, but I think the ways you are referring at are particularly useful for bachelor's students, when you are surrounded (can put yourself in situations to be surrounded) by lots of peers, and socialising is quite easier.
Imagine you are, for example, out of uni. What would you do then?

Continue to join clubs or societies.

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Anonymous #4

honestly, i'd just go up to a girl and talk to them normally like you would a friend, then maybe ask to go out for a coffee/drinks casually sometime if you're feeling it - if you're not, you can just stay friends or not go out again if you chose to and weren't feeling it.
As a girl, it really doesn't matter how you ask as long as you're not a **** about it. It's daunting for anyone when they ask someone out, but it gets a little less terrifying as you do it more and more. good luck!