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Boyfriend won't wear a condom

I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. For these years I have had the contraceptive implant in. In November I had it taken out as I felt like I had it in for way too long and want my body to go back to normal for a while. I tried to talk to him about my decision of getting it taken out and told him he would probably need to wear a condom when we want to have sex. He told me there was no way he would wear a condom. I'm not sure why he doesn't want to, I have a feeling it's partly because he doesn't know how to put it on but I've told him to find out how or I will put it on (I've never put a condom on either)

I tried to buy a box of condoms from our local Tesco but he shouted at me and told me there was no way he was buying them here. We had booked a week away and I decided to get some there as we wouldn't know anyone so he couldn't get embarrassed but he went in a mood with me in the shop and wouldn't talk to me properly for a good 1-2 hours and thought that £12 for 15 condoms was too much money. We tried the condom but he went soft as soon as I put it on him and he acted annoyed at me ever since. It's been over 3 months and we haven't had sex yet.

So, my problem here is why won't he wear a condom? I've been on contraception for 6 years. Is it not his turn now? I feel like I have to get the implanon again when I really don't want to.

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Reply 1

alkaline.

it is his turn esp since you feel uncomfortable on the implant after SO long.
why is he such a prick lel.

Reply 2

kD0t

Your boyfriend's a dick *no pun intended* tell him to put one or f*k off. He probably gunna run off if you pregnant he seems like an angry guy from your description

Reply 3

MJ1012

TBF Condoms can be expensive and a mood killer in a long-term relationship. Do you not fancy the pill?

Reply 4

Mayhem™

give him an ultimatum of condom or front door; that'll get him to put it on

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Deprive him of sex for long enough and he'll do anything :tongue:

Reply 6

Mayhem™

Original post by MJ1012

TBF Condoms can be expensive and a mood killer in a long-term relationship. Do you not fancy the pill?

I think we've found your boyfriend

Reply 7

Retired_Messiah

bah throw him out a window, he sounds annoying.

Reply 8

whorace

I kind of feel him (not in the gay way), if you've been having sex for all that time and now he has to wear something that makes it less sensitive and less pleasurable he's going to need some time to adjust and he'll probably be less aroused for a while.

Reply 9

999tigger

Wow he's very selfish. You should be having serious doubts about how much he cares about you. Your reasons are perfectly valid and reasonable.

Reply 10

Justmoll28

Original post by MJ1012

TBF Condoms can be expensive and a mood killer in a long-term relationship. Do you not fancy the pill?

theyre not expensive? you can get them free from every doctors in the uk?

Reply 11

MJ1012

Original post by Justmoll28

theyre not expensive? you can get them free from every doctors in the uk?

How many are you allowed each time?

Reply 12

EricParker

Give him sometime and if he continues to act like this, he really doesn't care for you.

Reply 13

llys

He thinks contraception is for girls.

He sounds insecure.

Original post by MJ1012

How many are you allowed each time?

erm, last time i went i got 15 and the time before that i got 12, get a C card

Reply 16

ChristianNewman

Original post by Mayhem™

I think we've found your boyfriend

Reply 17

brad0003

There are some cases that we men are not comfortable wearing condom, me myself dont like to wear everytime i have sex with my girlfriend because I cannot feel satisfaction. No condom is smooth and pleasurable, honestly speaking.