I'm dating a man who is much older than me, (in his late 50's but I'm around my late 20's). we go to the same martial arts club I've known him for 5 years previously and he used to train with me/coach me (but not officially). I'm very quiet, socially awkward and private person so I was worried what others would think initially, I avoided going to the club for 6 months. I finally plucked up the courage to go back and found that most people were OK with me but I got a few odd looks. I'm just very worried about people thinking in weird. Two women who I trained with deleted me off Facebook, one of them can be quite gossipy. I tried talking to her and gave her and her sons a lift home once after training. She didn't speak in the car it said 'brill your a star' when she was getting out the car. She still hasn't added me back on Facebook though lol. The thing is we don't even have sex, I'm 'frigid' not that into it (I have a fear of sti's which doesn't help) and it has put lots of pressure on the relationship so we are more like close friends at the moment. I still worry what people think though. Just wanted advice I mean am I over reacting or have I ruined whatever decent 'reputation' I might have had with people in the past. People say don't care what others think but the reality is I think it is just natural to do so.