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I broke up with her...but I regret it.

6 months later I'm really missing her and regret breaking up.
Original post by Anonymous
6 months later I'm really missing her and regret breaking up.


Why did you break up with her in the first place?
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
Why did you break up with her in the first place?


We used to argue quite a lot and I generally feel that I'm not a good boyfriend.
You need to remember that you broke up for a reason.. whats happend has happened and please.. dont try and change it. You wern't a bad boyfrined, dont blame yourself for what happend. Blaming yourself doent help!

ive been through a break up too in the past and i know its easy to blame yourself about what happend... but you learn from it.... take the experiances and lessons you learnt from that realationshop and use them to create a new, better and stronger one! :yep:

Find a way to distarct yourself? go for walks, read, go out and socialise a bit more. Going out and meeting new people helps too!

Im here for you if you want to talk though!!! im just one PM away! :smile:
Reply 4
Original post by CleverSquirrel
You need to remember that you broke up for a reason.. whats happend has happened and please.. dont try and change it. You wern't a bad boyfrined, dont blame yourself for what happend. Blaming yourself doent help!

ive been through a break up too in the past and i know its easy to blame yourself about what happend... but you learn from it.... take the experiances and lessons you learnt from that realationshop and use them to create a new, better and stronger one! :yep:

Find a way to distarct yourself? go for walks, read, go out and socialise a bit more. Going out and meeting new people helps too!

Im here for you if you want to talk though!!! im just one PM away! :smile:


Thank you :smile: But it wasn't her fault either, so who is to blame? I regret breaking up with her and want to go back to how we used to be.
Do you actually miss her or miss the idea of a relationship? Also, have you been missing her for the last several weeks or is this a very recent feeling? You should talk try to talk to her if it's her you miss and it's a deep feeling
Best thing to do is learn from the experience, ex is an ex for a reason.
Maybe you miss the idea of the relationship and not actually her in particular?
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you :smile: But it wasn't her fault either, so who is to blame? I regret breaking up with her and want to go back to how we used to be.


Then no-ones to blame. it shows that it wasnt meant to be.

and sweetie i know it sucks but i think it's more to do with the fact you miss the relationship aspect and not her.

which brings me back to my point of going out and meeting new people!! it'll help!! i promise!!!
Reply 9
Original post by HistoryWhiz6
Do you actually miss her or miss the idea of a relationship? Also, have you been missing her for the last several weeks or is this a very recent feeling? You should talk try to talk to her if it's her you miss and it's a deep feeling




I think I miss HER, we shared so many memories together and were so close.
Original post by Anonymous
I think I miss HER, we shared so many memories together and were so close.


So you miss the memories? The closeness you had?
Is it worth giving a second shot? Why did you break up?
Is this a recent feeling you've had?
Original post by Anonymous
I think I miss HER, we shared so many memories together and were so close.


Do you miss her, or a rose tinted version of her? If you argued a lot, that doesn't bode well for getting back together. It might be best for both of you to try and move on, and just keep the happy memories for what they are.

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Original post by shadowdweller
Do you miss her, or a rose tinted version of her? If you argued a lot, that doesn't bode well for getting back together. It might be best for both of you to try and move on, and just keep the happy memories for what they are.

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No chance of getting back together anyway, she hates me and has moved on, I totally wouldnt mind being her friend either.
Original post by Anonymous
No chance of getting back together anyway, she hates me and has moved on, I totally wouldnt mind being her friend either.


If there's no chance then you gotta move on. Don't dwell on the past.
Rather take from the experience.
Sometimes a total clean break is best.
Reply 14
Ask her back. Little to lose, either she is willing, or gets the satisfaction of returning the rejection.
Original post by Anonymous
No chance of getting back together anyway, she hates me and has moved on, I totally wouldnt mind being her friend either.


You are lonely and its the worst time of year so you are thinking of the past and what ifs. You just like how things were back then how loved up you were and how you had someone in your life. If you both got back together you would just have another argument and would probably break up again because you would realise you didnt actually want her you just want that feeling of being in a relationship.
I remember when i finished uni i felt depressed and missed it so much because it was so much easier back then and missed how i easily saw my friends which i can't now as i work and they or me are busy but i eventually moved on and when i think of uni i think of how it was good back then but wouldnt want to go back as im okay with how things are.
You need to go out and meet new people and find someone else and you will quickly move on from your ex and look back and will appreciate the memories you both shared but you wouldnt want to actually have her back. I do think maybe you weren't meant to be and there is someone else for you.

Chin up and have a good new year its all about moving on and fresh start and you may meet the one.
Original post by chikane
You are lonely and its the worst time of year so you are thinking of the past and what ifs. You just like how things were back then how loved up you were and how you had someone in your life. If you both got back together you would just have another argument and would probably break up again because you would realise you didnt actually want her you just want that feeling of being in a relationship.
I remember when i finished uni i felt depressed and missed it so much because it was so much easier back then and missed how i easily saw my friends which i can't now as i work and they or me are busy but i eventually moved on and when i think of uni i think of how it was good back then but wouldnt want to go back as im okay with how things are.
You need to go out and meet new people and find someone else and you will quickly move on from your ex and look back and will appreciate the memories you both shared but you wouldnt want to actually have her back. I do think maybe you weren't meant to be and there is someone else for you.

Chin up and have a good new year its all about moving on and fresh start and you may meet the one.


Thanks, man. Just a little insight into my life: I'm in my final year of college, whats the point of meeting someone new when in 6 months I'll be moving away for Uni, know what I mean? I dont see a point to things anymore.
Original post by Anonymous
Thanks, man. Just a little insight into my life: I'm in my final year of college, whats the point of meeting someone new when in 6 months I'll be moving away for Uni, know what I mean? I dont see a point to things anymore.


Geez you are very young and actually this is a blessing you broke up with your ex so you can improve yourself and have fun at uni. You will meet so many new people there are thousands of girls at uni forget college girls where there aren't as many.
You are talking as if your life is over when uni will be the best time of your life, so many events, societies etc. Just concentrate on your work, improve yourself, get a new hobby, go to the gym, learn how to cook etc and forget this girl.
A year from now you will be looking back laughing at how sad you were. Look to the future please forget the past.
It's easy to forget the reason you broke up with somebody in the first place; there must have been something nagging at you and telling you that you weren't happy with her. If you hadn't broken up, that feeling would only have gotten worse. And if you got back with her now, it wouldn't be long before the feeling returned. Best you can hope for is to still be friends, but really the best thing is to move on and find someone new.
Original post by Anonymous
6 months later I'm really missing her and regret breaking up.


Text her how you feel and if you have a justified explanation why you broke up with her she might be fine with it but if you don't then think, how your feeling now mate, she was feeling like that 6 months ago. And when you broke up with her were you with anyone afterwards? So try it, good luck.

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