He wanted multiple wives but doesn't anymore

Second chances are always possible. Stick with what your gut says never go for what your heart wants.

anyone else?

He is a massive cu*t. Run away from him.

If you are muslim: you shouldn't be speaking to him privately like that without your wali, if you aren't marrying then leave him alone as it'll only cause more fitnah.
He isn't following islam by what he's doing, babying around and playing emotional mind games. It's his fault for putting himself in the position to 'love' you, which in my opinion is 99% just a lie. If the other guy fits the criteria, practices well and you are going with it then stick to him. Don't know much about him but I assume he'll be less likely to be messaging and messing around with other girls than the other guy, who is already messaging you (haram) and has confessed a tendency to want multiple women.
If you aren't a muslim, pretty much the same thing but less relatable.

so this guy I was talking to wanted multiple wives when I first met him, even a year and a half after knowing him he still wanted it. I told him I didn't like the idea and that I don't want to marry him if he wants that. He wanted to marry me but wasn't willing to change his mind about that.

Then a year ago I messaged him and we hadn't spoken in a long time before this and he asked if I was with anyone and I told him I was getting married (I'm not marrying this guy anymore). He then asked if there was anything he can say to change my mind about marrying this guy, then he said 'actually I don't want to come in between you two'. He said hes changed and that he was young and it was the 'hormones speaking' and that he only wants one wife now. He said one is enough of a headache. He also said he loves me. But I don't anymore and once I told him that he seemed really hurt as he asked me why I didn't. We were talking this year on and off. He was starting all the conversations and he keeps putting up sad love songs on his snapchat.

These are some examples of the lyrics:
-'since you went away I can't explain the pain that I'm feeling'
-'the sun doesn't shine, the world doesn't turn alright if I don't have her'

I can't remember anymore but he puts stuff like that alot. Is he trying to make me feel guilty? The fact that he wanted multiple wives really damaged my self confidence and I was in a really bad place before because I loved him so much. People tell me I'm really pretty and that I can be a model but I don't believe them because of this guy.

he only wants one wife now. He said one is enough of a headache.

Why do you think its a lie? Im a muslim and I know I regret it.

It's typical behaviour of someone who is trying to play the emotion card. Using an emotional noose to try and guilt you into something he wants. It's impossible to actually love you, perhaps infatuation or desperation. His feelings shouldn't affect your situation, he'll find someone else to love. Do what's best for you in your situation, are you going to have an insecure relationship and regret not staying with this man?
Whoever is the best practicing muslim and fears Allah, you should go for. And the more you talk to this guy the worse, if you decide no then say no and shut him off. Don't allow him & shaytaan to affect you. And keep it thoroughly halal so you'll have blessing in your marriage.

Why do you think its impossible that he loved me? Ive known him for 2 and a half years so its hard to cut him out but youre right

He is a massive cu*t. Run away from him.

my friends don't believe me that I don't have feelings for him anymore but he's honestly too late. If he said all this a year and a half ago then things would've been really different. If he's genuine about his feelings then I guess he knows now what I went through

I don't see why he is cu*t, he was totally upfront about his desire to have multiple wives, he didn't try and deceive her, plus being a muslim ..having multiple wives is not unheard of.

If he was a western man, yes asking for multiple wives is a bit cheeky and unrealistic, but for a muslim man i don't really think it's the same thing......

lol'd

why do you think he wanted multiple wives? Was I not pretty enough for him or something

He knows there are some other muslim men out there with multiple wives ...so wanted that for himself too

If western culture permitted it, you'd probably find a lot of men here too would take multiple wives if the female partners were ok it