Argued with parents over University

Seems like quite the predicament, not trying to stereotype.. But are you Asian (dw I am)? My cousin was in a similar situation as you. He wanted to study history at uni but his parents didn't let him as it wouldn't get him a job. So he was forced to do Dentistry.

Hi guys so basically I hate my university course and want to drop out of it. I finally worked up the courage to tell my parents and instead of supporting me they shouted at me and mocked me telling me to just get a job where I'll get paid £1 an hour then.

I tried being reasonable I told them that my course is making me miserable and depressed and that my plan would be to get some work experience and find something I'm interested in but they just said that the only degrees worth doing are STEM, Accounting and Medical degrees and that any other degree won't get me a job and they made fun of me for saying that my course is making me depressed saying that at my age I shouldn't be depressed and that I should feel privileged to be at Uni instead of hating my course (like I have a choice I can't help it ffs).

They kept asking me what I'm interested in and I told them I don't know (I do actually, I've recently become very interested in film making but they would obviously mock me if I told them). So now we've had a massive argument and I'm sitting in my romm typing this while I can hear my parents sitting downstairs mocking me and calling me ungrateful and useless. I can't even bear to look at them anymore and I have no idea what to do sometimes I feel like just spending the rest of my life lying in bed doing nothing cus I f*****g hate life.

What are you doing?

Your parents are being very unreasonable however I think you should reevaluate. Dropping out means this year's wasted, what is your plan then?

I'm doing Mechanical Engineering. I've thought about this carefully and I just have no interest in it and am already falling behind.

what course are you currently doing? How long have you been at it? Are you sure its the uni course making you depressed or just starting uni? Make sure you are clear with yourself first 100%...
Research into filmmakingor other potensial routes and enquire about courses etc. so youve got a plan, it ll soften the blow and give you anwsers to your parents.

Where, may I ask?

And you haven't answered the other question. you're dropping out in october, what's your plan then?

Mechanical Engineering. I hate the course I find it so boring and uninteresting. My parents would never let me pursue film making they wouldn't even let me CONSIDER studying Pharmacology or Physics at Uni so I can't imagine how they'd react to me wanting to be a film maker.

What the ****, why won't they let you study physics? That's literally as STEM as you can get! it might even be better than mechanical engineering in some aspects.

If you're parents are threatening to kick you out JUST because you don't want to be forced into doing a degree that you hate, then here's a novel concept: ditch them. Get a student loan, get a maintenance loan, get a job and just ditch them. You are an adult now, you don't have to put up with this kind of abuse, it's insane. If you go to uni in an expensive area, then it's much harder to live but still, you should consider just cutting ties with them. If they truly loved you, they wouldn't force you into doing something you seriously hate, so just keep that in mind.

Also, I am also a Pakistani born in Scotland!
What are the chances!

I have the same situation but i'm only doing a levels. To be honest i can't help you but all i can tell you is that you should just try finding a STEM pathway that interests you. I thought about giving my a levels up but then i didn't want to disappoint my family so i just kept researching different paths and i have found something that interests me providing i get a chemical engineering degree. If you honestly find no interest whatsoever and you believe you would be happier doing something else then risk it because why not. But your parents aren't wrong, perhaps try your best and stick to it at Uni because whatever course youre doing it probably will secure you a job but money isnt worth anything if you're gonna be unhappy. Good luck dude

They say there are no jobs in Physics. I wasn't sure if that was actually what I wanted to study I just mentioned it as an alternative to engineering because I liked Physics at school but they shot that idea down instantly

I would love to ditch my parents and build my own life but at the end of the day they feed me and put a roof over my head I can't just walk out I have nowhere to go and I know they just want me to build a comfortable life for myself but they are so selfish and insensitive.

I feel like I just can't talk to them about anything it took me 3 weeks to work up the courage to tell them this and I ended up being treated like this. I knew they would make a scene out of it.

I have the same situation but i'm only doing a levels. To be honest i can't help you but all i can tell you is that you should just try finding a STEM pathway that interests you. I thought about giving my a levels up but then i didn't want to disappoint my family so i just kept researching different paths and i have found something that interests me providing i get a chemical engineering degree. If you honestly find no interest whatsoever and you believe you would be happier doing something else then risk it because why not. But your parents aren't wrong, perhaps try your best and stick to it at Uni because whatever course youre doing it probably will secure you a job but money isnt worth anything if you're gonna be unhappy. Good luck dude

I don't understand how you can justify his parents behaviour? Also, they are wrong. Just because STEM degrees have much higher employability and job prospects, doesn't mean that every other degree is completely useless. How does "fewer job prospects" equate to no job prospects at all?

I can justify his parents behaviour because i grew up the same way.

You said it yourself 'higher employability' so its easier to find work if he does the STEM course. Obviously he can still find work if he doesn't follow through with this STEM course but i was just saying he shouldn't abandon it so soon, take a break perhaps its just stress that's making him feel this way. I wanted to be an actor a few years ago but then i completely changed.

He needs to decide for himself but his parents only want what they think is best for him. But like i said before he should do what makes him happy. In addition he should plan each route hes thinking of taking. I've even planned for what im going to do if i fail my a levels. Anyway i hope he works it out for himself.

I think his parents want what they think is best for him, that's quite different to what is actually best for him.