Creeped out by some of the likes I get on OKCupid

I’m an Oxford Mum to everyone on tsr. In fact my real elder son is active on tsr. His username is Adoody28. He’s a great guy if I say so myself xx

Temper, temper.
OP was only questioning whether her experience is a reflection of her personally, a trend of online dating or something most widely connected to some sites.
The okcupid site is notorious for problems with creeps of both genders, sockpuppet accounts setup to inflate member numbers and real users trying scams.
Many uk based matchmakers and specialist introductions services warn their members to steer clear of okc and the usa loveyouraccent site.

There is a big difference between saying someone "looks creepy" and bemoaning a lack of users that are hollywood lookalikes.
From personal experience looking creepy includes anyone (males & females): wearing t-shirts with abusive/vicious derogatory rhetoric, smug photos taken at edl or britain first rallies, photos of clothing/items sold at the online kkk store and photos taken with neo nazi memorabilia in the background.
I'm not a fan of Channing Tatum or any of the reality tv stars.

Guys were sending her likes and she was moaning about it calling them creepy looking cause they were unattractive to her. They were not wearing KKK t shirts or neo Nazis or anything like that as I'm sure she would have used it in her defence when I confronted her over it.

The word creep is entirely exclusively reserved for males and I have never heard a female in my life call another female a creep or a male call a female a creep. usually the guy being called a creep has done nothing wrong at all other than being unattractive to a woman and indicating romantic interest in her. If hot guys displayed the same behaviour the women typically view it as "romantic"

These men had done NOTHING wrong so I don't know why you are saying OkCupid is notorious for creeps unless you believe sending a like = creep in which case yeah the whole site is full of creeps.

Yes. Go for the more classy dating websites; not ones like Tinder or Ok Cupid and learn how to block messages from the people.

If you don’t like the men, please don’t reply. I used to be on dating sites but came off them as it traumatised me. All of them turned out to be liars. I met two and neither of them had sent recent photos. And their personalities? Oh my dear. My son and I just spent time laughing at them. So don’t worry, you’re not unusual at all, just discerning. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don’t want to. And just stay safe, please. Xx

I’m an Oxford Mum to everyone on tsr. In fact my real elder son is active on tsr. His username is Adoody28. He’s a great guy if I say so myself xx

Guys were sending her likes and she was moaning about it calling them creepy looking cause they were unattractive to her. They were not wearing KKK t shirts or neo Nazis or anything like that as I'm sure she would have used it in her defence when I confronted her over it.

The word creep is entirely exclusively reserved for males and I have never heard a female in my life call another female a creep or a male call a female a creep. usually the guy being called a creep has done nothing wrong at all other than being unattractive to a woman and indicating romantic interest in her. If hot guys displayed the same behaviour the women typically view it as "romantic"

These men had done NOTHING wrong so I don't know why you are saying OkCupid is notorious for creeps unless you believe sending a like = creep in which case yeah the whole site is full of creeps.

Guys were sending her likes and she was moaning about it calling them creepy looking cause they were unattractive to her. They were not wearing KKK t shirts or neo Nazis or anything like that as I'm sure she would have used it in her defence when I confronted her over it.

The word creep is entirely exclusively reserved for males and I have never heard a female in my life call another female a creep or a male call a female a creep. usually the guy being called a creep has done nothing wrong at all other than being unattractive to a woman and indicating romantic interest in her. If hot guys displayed the same behaviour the women typically view it as "romantic"

These men had done NOTHING wrong so I don't know why you are saying OkCupid is notorious for creeps unless you believe sending a like = creep in which case yeah the whole site is full of creeps.

Oh yes.

I’m no model but I’m half decent looking, but some of the messages I get are from really, really odd looking guys. I just think like... come on?! I don’t know what they expect to be honest.

Stop being so defensive!

I agree with the OP, I often get messages from really odd looking men, saying things like “wow you are absolutely stunning!!”. And I feel like asking them, if you genuinely think that, then what do you honestly expect to happen? I know it sounds terrible, but it’s just logic to me.

And similarly, I often see men on Tinder/ PoF who are gorgeous with ripped bodies, and I know that there is no point me even bothering. And tbh I wouldn’t want to, I’d be uncomfortable dating someone who was so much more attractive than me.

It’s natural to aim for partners who are a similar level of attractiveness to yourself. I’m not stunning but I’d say I’m quite pretty. So whilst I wouldn’t go for a Hollister model, I’m not going to go on a date with Sloth from the Goonies either.

I know this sounds terrible, but I’m being honest and frank.

So how would you like it if a guy made a topic on a forum one day complaining about creepy looking girls contacting him online because of a like you sent him?

what conclusions would you come to about said guys character?

does he sound like a decent person?

how would you feel if everyone started giving the guy sympathy and agreeing with him [like what is happening with the OP]



just something to think about........

No I don't give girls likes actually i'm not that type at all.

I made my post because there are far too many girls like yourself taking the piss these days.

It's a dating site.
If the website owner built in a like feature take up your issue with them. The guys are using the site the way it is intended. Just because the guy doesn't look like Channing Tatum no need to brand him "creepy" just for sending a like. I can understand if he sent a dic pick or something but they are sending likes on a dating site.

Not everyone who shows interest in you on dating sites is going to be your cup of tea.
Move on and stop putting other people down unnecessarily.

Imagine if you sent a like to a guy you liked on there and he was all like "this creepy looking girl sent me a like errrgh"

When I get a guy old enough to be my father sending me a like, I’m going to get creeped out.

When I get a Marilyn Manson look alike sending me a like, I’m going to be creeped out.

When I get a pervy looking guy send a topless picture showing his torso right up to the outline of his pelvis and almost towards his penis, I’m going to get creeped out.