Is this a proper friend

He starts makings threats, mimicking my voice, calling me a ****** names like that and everything. I just don’t want to fall out with him so I try to make friends with him again and he says no then carries on making fun of me with other people. I just don’t want to lose him as I feel like sometimes he can be a good friend.

At we were talking about my 24th birthday and we were talking about weather he would come if I had another one, he says he’s learnt now not to come to a ******s party. He asked if I m angry so I said no even though I was but to scared to say and said good, if I hit him he’ll make sure he puts me in hospital. We have this group chat and we were talking about meeting up because we haven’t done that since lockdown then he slowly started to get angry to me and called me a *******. We were just planning where to go and he just ended up calling me that. It was a few friends and I think one of my friends said buy something then I said I don’t have enough money then the guy called me a cheapskate so I said no I’m not and it’s escalated to me calling me a *******.

It just has been happening for a long time like hell, call me a ******* or other names, mimic my voice or whatever then we’d make up by me getting him to or him doing it himself then he’ll do it again soon after. I just keep thinking he’ll be different this time, he’ll change but he doesn’t.

Reply 1

DylAFC

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Just cut him off, he is not your friend but just somebody attempting to use you.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by dylgeo

Just cut him off, he is not your friend but just somebody attempting to use you.

I just don’t have many other friends

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cloudy.skies

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That isn’t a good friend. That’s extremely toxic.

I know it feels like you can improve them as a person, but sadly in most cases you can’t.

This isn’t a happy friendship. It’s clearly one sided with you putting all the effort in and him just shutting you down.

I would leave this friendship along if I were you. You’ve given him chances to change his behaviour and he’s refused, therefore showing he won’t be adapting his personality any time soon.

I would leave it and move on. They’ll be plenty other people willing to have an actual healthy friendship with you :smile:

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Meanerbean

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Original post by Anonymous

I just don’t have many other friends

Always choose quality over quantity. You don't need "friends" like that in your life

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Meanerbean

Always choose quality over quantity. You don't need "friends" like that in your life

I only have one other friend

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by pepsimaxcherry

That isn’t a good friend. That’s extremely toxic.

I know it feels like you can improve them as a person, but sadly in most cases you can’t.

This isn’t a happy friendship. It’s clearly one sided with you putting all the effort in and him just shutting you down.

I would leave this friendship along if I were you. You’ve given him chances to change his behaviour and he’s refused, therefore showing he won’t be adapting his personality any time soon.

I would leave it and move on. They’ll be plenty other people willing to have an actual healthy friendship with you :smile:

Coke is better

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