How to deal with heartbreak?

Allow yourself to feel your feelings. It’s completely normal to have and it often feels disheartening knowing that you can’t have her, that’s alright. Take a moment to yourself for a bit. After you’ve done that, you need to understand that whatever you do is out of your hands, accept it and try moving on.

Having said that, I would highly suggest you stop/ restrict contact from her. This will allow you to break attachment from her, one in which can give you false hope. Don’t make it a habit to get into long conversations with her and keep firm distance.

In addition to that, don’t try and get “revenge” because she isn’t interested in you. Instead, just show your love towards someone else, there will be a person willing to appreciate you as you are, if not her. Have plenty of hope and make sure you prioritise yourself before anything else because at the end of the day, you’ll only see this moment as a memory that you have so don’t let it affect you.

Hope this helped.

Thank you for your response. It's very helpful and I appreciate it a lot.

There's things she says which always gives me mixed feelings/signals. For instance she says stuff like "I know you care".

Or another example is that she saw me outside of work by chance at the supermarket. Then she messages me like "we're connected in a deeper way".

I made another joke saying I'd get a restraining order on her and she said replied "restraining orders can't keep us apart"

Am I looking too deep into it?

If you are not sure where you stand with her, and she’s giving you signals, I’d say try asking her how she feels about you. If no luck, just do everything I said in the previous reply.

This is the question most England fans will be asking now. L o L

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. I'll progress with this over the course of time. Hopefully if it goes well I'll report back

So bit of an update:

Things are still mix signalled. I left Instagram a couple weeks back and she messaged me asking how we were going to stay in touch. In the end we decided that I'd give her my number. The first week after that, nothing had changed. Everything was still the same. But suddenly during the second week...I can't remember how but we started messaging...and since then we haven't stopped. Literally everyday we are messaging. And usually when she messages, there's no effort to keep the convo going. But now for some reason, shes really keeping it going....shes constantly asking questions and if she sees the convo is dying out, she'll start new topic. I purposely tried to kill the convo to see what she'd do and she started a new topic. She even pointed me out on it and why I didn't continue the convo.

Fast forward to last week....we called each other. First time we spent half an hour on the phone.....a couple days ago we called again and we soent over an hour. This may sound all positive but I'm still getting mixed signals. I've told her through passing of convo that I care a lot about her and she means so much to me....and she responded that she cares aswell about me. But then at other times she keeps bringing up how such good friends we are and that we're besties....

A strong part of me may think that she's genuinely treating this as a friendship and not looking to develop it.

But before she got my number and back when we used to DM on Instagram, why didn't she talk like this????

Women are sooo confusing 😭😭.

P.s: Forgot to mention, whilst we were on the phone, we somehow got on the topic of flirting and women flirting through sexualising themselves (e.g. showing clevage, exposing skin, etc). She said she doesn't like that and she has "her" ways of flirting with a guy. What dies this mean? Am I truely in the friendzone if she's discussing this sort of thing with me?

This is the question most England fans will be asking now. L o L

So bit of an update:

Things are still mix signalled. I left Instagram a couple weeks back and she messaged me asking how we were going to stay in touch. In the end we decided that I'd give her my number. The first week after that, nothing had changed. Everything was still the same. But suddenly during the second week...I can't remember how but we started messaging...and since then we haven't stopped. Literally everyday we are messaging. And usually when she messages, there's no effort to keep the convo going. But now for some reason, shes really keeping it going....shes constantly asking questions and if she sees the convo is dying out, she'll start new topic. I purposely tried to kill the convo to see what she'd do and she started a new topic. She even pointed me out on it and why I didn't continue the convo.

Fast forward to last week....we called each other. First time we spent half an hour on the phone.....a couple days ago we called again and we soent over an hour. This may sound all positive but I'm still getting mixed signals. I've told her through passing of convo that I care a lot about her and she means so much to me....and she responded that she cares aswell about me. But then at other times she keeps bringing up how such good friends we are and that we're besties....

A strong part of me may think that she's genuinely treating this as a friendship and not looking to develop it.

But before she got my number and back when we used to DM on Instagram, why didn't she talk like this????

Women are sooo confusing 😭😭.

P.s: Forgot to mention, whilst we were on the phone, we somehow got on the topic of flirting and women flirting through sexualising themselves (e.g. showing clevage, exposing skin, etc). She said she doesn't like that and she has "her" ways of flirting with a guy. What dies this mean? Am I truely in the friendzone if she's discussing this sort of thing with me?

In future, try quoting me.

I say that she doesn’t like you in that way. Unfortunately. I feel like this is a strong friend zone tbh

Just do everything I said in post #1, there are plenty of fish in the sea so don’t worry.

As for what she said, it’s pretty much was it says on the tin. She might prefer words rather than actions. You should have asked her to clarify.

Coming from a girl, I think she likes you.

What a story?!
But she does like you as it seems...

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Are you feeling any better?

My advice would be don't dwell on it - it only feels sucky when you're consciously thinking about it. It will go away with time, and that time can either be spent thinking about it constantly, or can be spent reading books or focusing on other things. You can't be upset and absorbed in a task at the same time.

Alternatively, dating 3 more girls will help put it in perspective.

Ahhh, sorry about that. I will do.

I also read some of the other replies to this thread and other people are saying she does like me 😵😵😵.

I found it hilarious that I also have moxed responses. Ahahahaha. I'm gonna try keep things going but not try to get my hopes up. Amd I'll see how that goes