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Boyfriend has gone away

My boyfriend has gone travelling around South America for a few weeks. How do I deal with the anxiety of him being away? The time difference is not going to help either.

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Reply 1

username5897144

This is definitely a tricky situation. I would say, keep remembering that it's only temporary and that you'll be able to see him again in a few weeks. Also try and keep yourself busy so you're not thinking about it all the time.

Reply 2

j25_8

Original post by Anonymous

My boyfriend has gone travelling around South America for a few weeks. How do I deal with the anxiety of him being away? The time difference is not going to help either.

South America? Tell him to roll strapped😬

Reply 3

username155270

Go out with your girlfriends, spend time with your family, cousins.

(edited 2 years ago)

Reply 4

Fenneko

Original post by xobeauty

Go out with your girlfriends, boyfriends, spend time with your family, cousins.

Wtf???

Reply 5

agnos987

Original post by Joel 96

Wtf???

maybe they mean male friends?

Reply 6

candydiva

R u anxious just coz he's away? Or coz he's in SOUTH AMERICA? I'm part South American and I can tell u the legend is not a myth.... it's true the girls are hotter and more open and more fun there esp Colombianas lol! Watch the movie too...

Reply 7

Fenneko

Original post by agnos987

maybe they mean male friends?

I guess we'll pretend that a taken girl hanging out with other guys in her spare time is a totally cool thing to do in a relationship

Reply 8

greenmean

Original post by Joel 96

I guess we'll pretend that a taken girl hanging out with other guys in her spare time is a totally cool thing to do in a relationship

people aren't allowed friends of the opposite sex?

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Can’t you maybe, FaceTime or Skype him daily. Though maintain a form of contact and communication because it is key though it’s only a matter of few weeks.

Reply 10

Fenneko

Original post by greenmean

people aren't allowed friends of the opposite sex?

In a relationship, this is a really contextual answer, but generally no because of the dynamics that exist between males and females.

Reply 11

greenmean

Original post by Joel 96

In a relationship, this is a really contextual answer, but generally no because of the dynamics that exist between males and females.

Bit strange, but I can't really argue with your opinion as it is just an opinion ^w^

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Original post by j25_8

South America? Tell him to roll strapped😬

Ahaha I know, worried about that

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Original post by candydiva

honestly a bit of both tbh

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

Can’t you maybe, FaceTime or Skype him daily. Though maintain a form of contact and communication because it is key though it’s only a matter of few weeks.

I highly doubt that because he's gonna be so busy, and I'll be at work or doing uni work. Also the time difference won't help.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Original post by Jimbo1902

This is very true, I am keeping myself busy but even when I'm busy I can't switch my thoughts off unfortunately.

Reply 16

j25_8

Original post by Anonymous

Ahaha I know, worried about that

Seriously though I actually saw one of my long time friends today who told me about a trip he took to brasil. From what he told me, I’d advise your bf to take pictures. A lot of pictures so long as he’s polite about it. If he’s staying somewhere nice, he might peer over people who aren’t sharing those conditions and even though it might make him feel weird, my friend told me that he took those pictures to generally remember how thankful he should be to live in far better conditions. Apart from that, tell him to just be nice and conversate with the people who he’s going to be around and they will be nice back to him.

As for you? You’re both gonna be busy but I’d recommend you just maintained contact w eachother even if it’s one text a day. Just knowing he’s alright will put you at ease and just let him know you’re waiting for him back at home - he will appreciate that a lot & thank you for it

Reply 17

BurstingBubbles

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Original post by Joel 96

I guess we'll pretend that a taken girl hanging out with other guys in her spare time is a totally cool thing to do in a relationship

Original post by Joel 96

In a relationship, this is a really contextual answer, but generally no because of the dynamics that exist between males and females.

Really? Wow that would suggest trust issues. It would also be really sad to limit someone on who they can be friends with based on gender. So can bi/pan people not have any friends? I'd be stuck then :lol:

Reply 18

nikkiblonsky

PERFECT TIME TO CHEAT ON HIM

Spoiler

Reply 19

Fenneko

Original post by BurstingBubbles

Really? Wow that would suggest trust issues. It would also be really sad to limit someone on who they can be friends with based on gender.

I don't know if you're aware, but guys are generally only "friends" with girls because they want to **** them, or are open to the possibility of ****ing them. As a guy, I perceive other men as natural threats because of this sexual dynamic. It's got nothing to do with trust issues in your partner. On the contrary, it's got everything to do with protecting your relationship.

In a healthy relationship, both parties should acknowledge the problems that come from having friends of the opposite sex. Men, in particular, should grow some balls. If you're letting your woman go out with some guy friends, then you've already failed her "**** testing".

Original post by BurstingBubbles