Dunno what to do about my girlfriend Watch
Frigging doing my nut in. I know I should just leave it be, since she's just messed me around... but at the same time I wanna know what's gone on.
Do I text her after she ignored me, leave it a day or so, ring her, Facebook her, or just ask her outright next time I see her in uni?
Sorry if am annoying anyone. I know that it's over, I just dunno what's gone wrong.
That's exactly how she's been, and it's annoying me because she's told me stuff she'd never told anyone before, said she couldn't tell people, but could with me. Now she's bottling up EVERYTHING, and dismisses me when I ask her what's up.
Feelings don't just go away because you realise that a relationship isn't working, she will have feelings for you (it sounds as if you two were close) but not enough to spend time with you instead of her friends. Don't go limping around after her begging for a chance to make things work, you don't want her half heartedly agreeing to go out with you because she feels sorry for you. The best thing to do is to throw yourself into your friends and uni life, socialise lots, have lots of fun and maybe you'll meet someone else to have good times with.
I've been invited out for a friends birthday meal on Wednesday, and she's been invited too. Cack.
Hey, it's me again.
Following on from my last thread which in short was, me and this girl started seeing each other. Soon after we got together her mates and my ex's mates kept on talking about it, and comparing my girlfriend to my ex. She didn't tell me this and bottled it all up, then when she goes home for Christmas she tells me she wants to split up, and that she wants us to just be mates. We meet up after Christmas, and she says she wants to split up and be friends, even though I said I didn't want that and being friends wouldn't work out, especially if we had feelings for each other. She said her feelings had changed towards me. As it was her birthday I gave her her present I'd got her anyway. She burst out crying and left, and when I got home she had left me a message on Facebook saying she lied and still had feelings for me, and wanted to still be with me, just to take things slow.
So on to the recent stuff.
We go out on a night out for her birthday, and it was a bit awkward. The next day, she invites me to her mates, as her mates boyfriend has come up to visit. She's 'off with me'. We sit through an awkward meal, then she asks me to go to hers for a drink, but not to stay for long. I left after fifteen mins. She texts me Sunday night asking to go round to watch a film with her, I'm out with my mates so can't. So, I said about meeting up with her Monday, and she said no as she has this essay she's struggling with and wants to do that. Fair enough.
We go the cinema today, she's okay with me on the train and stuff, but when we arrive in town she starts picking out my flaws, like I'm immature, I stand too close to her when she's looking at clothes, or I'm over-dramatic about stuff. Petty things, says she's joking. We go the cinema, things are okay through the film, but she's still a bit off with me. We go for some food, and she hardly speaks to me, and then she says I embarrassed her cuz I stuck my legs out from the table to stretch them. I ask her how she felt things were going with us after all the other crap, and she told me not to mention it to stop talking about it.
The train home we hardly speak. I say am annoyed at how things are and how things have changed, and she says it's to be expected. She also has said she's going to be busy the next couple of weeks with this essay, and she's going home for a few days in-between, so we can't see each other for another two weeks now.
I dunno what's gone on. Before all this happened, we'd see each other everyday, we'd speak all the time, there would never be any moments of silence.Now there always is, and she's always getting into moods. I try and speak to her about it, but she wants to keep it to herself.
What's going on with her? Will things ever go back to the way things were or should I just give up now? It annoys me because, I'd split up with my ex for various reasons and wasn't ready for a girlfriend. Then my girlfriend now says she likes me, and as we get to know each other I realise I like her. I say am not ready for a relationship yet, but because we were already 'kind of' seeing each other anyway I thought it was silly to be so against a relationship again. Now it's gone like this.
Maybe you should give her a bit of tough love, tell her straight that she is the one being immature, pissing you off and that she can take as long as she needs to but until she is ready to look at your relationship in a more mature light you don't want to talk to her or see her.
Might sound a tad nasty but she needs to know that you don't need to be messed around. It will also show your dominant man side and might tip the balance in your favour, no woman likes a needy little weed after all.
And just like this girl, I don't trust anybody. So I can understand her behaviour.
But for your own sake just move on. You'll get your own closure in time but for now let it go.