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    (Original post by cat_meiow)
    I'm not trying to judge your relationship but if your in a committed relationship and totally trust each other then you shouldn't really care what you look like in your partners eye. I have to admit that when i first started going out with my boyfriend the thought of him seeing me naked let alone going anywhere near that region scared me (im sure im not alone there) but after a while you just get used to it.

    i can't imagine a relationship without giving or recieving.

    To the OP does that mean you don't give it either?
    i disagree, id want my partner to like what i look like.

    shes never asked, and i dont think she ever will, but if she did ~ then i would. Just like i think she would if i asked, but i wont.
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    Can i ask how long you've been together?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    im getting the feeling some people secrelty share my opinion, but most of them are girls and just accept it because most guys want it.
    I think that there are guys out there who would accept if their girlfriends didnt want to do it. Guys who would refuse... hmm not too sure about that I'm sure some exist! But perhaps just because they want to preserve their girlfriends' 'purity' if that makes sense?
    Like sex is beautiful, but giving head is seen as well.. not so beautiful. Just really satisfying hehehe...

    Although I do think a guy going down on a girl he loves is very romantic. I'm just a bit weird that way though.
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    5 years, nearly 6.. ever since i was 12.
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    heh you think a reason would that i would get bored and experiment?

    -- i have more control than to do that, nor do i want to.
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    Wow thats such a long relationship!

    But maybe that kind of explains it? You were I'm guessing her first and the other way too. You'll have seen her sexual side develop and dont want to be the one that 'taints' it with more submissive acts.

    Of course I may be talking absolute bull!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    5 years, nearly 6.. ever since i was 12.
    Wow not to sound patronising but impressive. Have either of you ever tried because I'm sure if that's the case then if you did you wouldn't look back at it.
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    Wow thats such a long relationship!

    But maybe that kind of explains it? You were I'm guessing her first and the other way too. You'll have seen her sexual side develop and dont want to be the one that 'taints' it with more submissive acts.

    Of course I may be talking absolute bull!

    i there might be a bit of that too.

    (Original post by cat_meiow)
    Have either of you ever tried because I'm sure if that's the case then if you did you wouldn't look back at it.
    Ive never tried to give, ive never asked to recieve and thats the same with her. i think mangomaz be closer to it, i think i would also feel guilty of asking her to as well. But i dont want her too at the same time, so it works well
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    hmm i guess im alone in this, ah well
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    i think a blowjob can be degrading, but so can normal sex. especially in porn.

    but if the girl wants to pleasure you orally and doesn't do it just because she thinks it's something she should do - then no, it's not degrading. and it's not degrading for a guy to go down on a girl either.
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    Anon #1 you’re different/unique be proud!! :p:
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    oh, ..thanks, although that being your 666th post is quite weird
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    Here's how I see it. I really enjoy when my girlfriend goes down on me. She says she enjoys doing it. How is this degrading for either of us?

    And on the dominant submissive thing, surely the partner giving oral sex is dominant, as they are controlling when and how the other is getting pleasure, and can stop at any point they want. They are also in a position to do some serious damage, another factor of their 'control' and therefore dominance.
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    lol...serious damage, your gf would be scary i take it?
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    if you don't like it don't do it. If you don't want it done, then don't have it done:p: Thats the way i see it
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    lol...serious damage, your gf would be scary i take it?
    Not at all, just if she wanted to, she could. I know she wouldn't but other people's girlfriends might be into that kind of thing.....
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    eh..didnt mean that to be rude if thats how you will interpret it

    i guess some people dont think of it as being degrading, but i know some do, and after this topic, and they are quite a few.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anyone know any girls that wouldn't want a guy to go down on them? I wouldn't let a guy go down on me. Ick.
    Ah, you'll learn, girl. One day. You'll look back on that post, wondering "what the hell was I thinking?"


    I think if you're in a loving relationship then things like oral sex don't seem degrading, they just become part of a natural wish to make your boyfriend or girlfriend happy. How do you know you wouldn't want her to if you've never experienced it? My rule of thumb is don't dismiss anything without having tried it. Except really REALLY dangerous or incredibly illegal things.

    heh you think a reason would that i would get bored and experiment?

    -- i have more control than to do that, nor do i want to.
    What's wrong with experimentation? It seems...to me...that because you've been together so long you put your girlfriend on a pedastal and aren't able to introduce something new...or that you see her as some kind of ideal.. Have you ever talked to her about anything like this? She's probably too polite to ask you to go down on her; because you've been together for so long it might be awkward for her to ask you to do something new...but doesn't mean she wouldn't appreciate it even if you profess to being uninterested yourself. That seems like a bit of a tangent.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I really would never like my girl friend to give me a blow job, its nothing to do with hygiene, i just think its degrading. Before people say that its "normal" to ask for a bj or anal sex, its not, the mouth and anus are not sexual organs ~ if my gf ever started id ask her to stop and id explain why, anyone else feel the same way or are you all for it?

    Just curious.

    The mouth is a sexual place. You kiss dont ya?
 
 
 
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