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Boyfriend picks gaming over me?

Yes, I know how pathetic the title sounds. Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's part of this TF2 'clan' - basically a group of friends who play matches against other teams. Now I thought this was a little sad when I first heard about it, but he enjoys it so I've left him to it. However, he's began to tell me during phone calls or IM conversations that he has to go so he can practice with his team. I understand that he needs his own time, but we're talking 5pm-9pm every weekday and 12pm-7pm every weekend. It seems a little excessive to me, and although he's never cancelled plans for seeing me due to gaming, I can't help but feel that's the next step. Should I talk to him about this? My friends are also saying to 'dump him and find someone normal', but I don't think that's fair. Idk. Advice?

Reply 1

inksplodge

17

If it isn't affecting your relationship leave him to it. It's when he starts ditching you for the gaming that I would say something. All guys have their 'obsessions' - be it sport or gaming.

Reply 2

sil3nt_cha0s

16

WoW, that is pretty bad :awesome:

Reply 3

micky022

16

sunlightxstarbright

Yes, I know how pathetic the title sounds. Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's part of this TF2 'clan' - basically a group of friends who play matches against other teams. Now I thought this was a little sad when I first heard about it, but he enjoys it so I've left him to it. However, he's began to tell me during phone calls or IM conversations that he has to go so he can practice with his team. I understand that he needs his own time, but we're talking 5pm-9pm every weekday and 12pm-7pm every weekend. It seems a little excessive to me, and although he's never cancelled plans for seeing me due to gaming, I can't help but feel that's the next step. Should I talk to him about this? My friends are also saying to 'dump him and find someone normal', but I don't think that's fair. Idk. Advice?

There's this girl I know, who is absolutely stunning. All the lads in the Sixth Form fawn over her, but she's taken. And one time, her lad chose CounterStrike: Source over having sex with her. Lunacy I tells ya.

I think you should tell him that you feel pushed out by Team Fortress 2, and that he needs to get his priorities in order. You're real, and immediate. Team Fortress is not.

Reply 4

uktom91

10

sil3nt_cha0s

WoW, that is pretty bad :awesome:

god that's the worst joke i've heard this week :biggrin:

Reply 5

Diaz89

3

you're probably not that good looking....

ONLY kidding

just leave him

Reply 6

username158373

18

**** me. That's not even a game worth playing either. I mean a bitta cod4 or halo3 instead of the gf is doable if you can't be bothered...but tf2? jesus. Plus thats an insane amount of hours! I think i agree with your friends.

Reply 7

Nelo Angelo

sunlightxstarbright

Yes, I know how pathetic the title sounds. Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's part of this TF2 'clan' - basically a group of friends who play matches against other teams. Now I thought this was a little sad when I first heard about it, but he enjoys it so I've left him to it. However, he's began to tell me during phone calls or IM conversations that he has to go so he can practice with his team. I understand that he needs his own time, but we're talking 5pm-9pm every weekday and 12pm-7pm every weekend. It seems a little excessive to me, and although he's never cancelled plans for seeing me due to gaming, I can't help but feel that's the next step. Should I talk to him about this? My friends are also saying to 'dump him and find someone normal', but I don't think that's fair. Idk. Advice?

He's playing 4 hours a night and 7 on weekends? How long does he spend with you? Its perfectly fine for a guy to have gaming time but he shouldn't be choosing it over you. I'd give him a chance to change his ways and spend more time with you and if he doesn't dump his ass. See how much he enjoys TF2 when he hasn't got you anymore.

Reply 8

FrancesO

9

Get into TF2 and kick his ass on it :biggrin:

Me and my boyfriend play Halo together. It's a pretty fun thing to do when we have free time. :smile:

Reply 9

uktom91

10

FrancesO

Get into TF2 and kick his ass on it :biggrin:

Me and my boyfriend play Halo together. It's a pretty fun thing to do when we have free time. :smile:

nerd

Reply 10

Madjackismad

13

Hey, could be worst...he could be playing World of Warcraft. :awesome:

Reply 11

NS17

15

sil3nt_cha0s

WoW, that is pretty bad :awesome:

Lawl, LFG Tank 4 RLFail HC.

Reply 12

FrancesO

9

uktom91

nerd

Maybe. ^^

Reply 13

silverbolt

19

maybe your boring. Or he thinks you are. Its possible

was he like this before you got together - if yes then you really cant complain

Nelo Angelo

See how much he enjoys TF2 when he hasn't got you anymore.

seeing as he plays 34 hours a week now and he has a girlfriend i doubt he will miss her that much.

I have to say it sounds like your second best whether because you dont hold his interest or the game hold his interest TOO much. You need to sort out of he will cut down the amount or re-evaluate your relationship. If hes happy being on his own playing his game - then i doubt your going to get in the way too much if you leave

Reply 14

omegaweapon1987

ChrisLincoln

**** me. That's not even a game worth playing either. I mean a bitta cod4 or halo3 instead of the gf is doable if you can't be bothered...but tf2? jesus. Plus thats an insane amount of hours! I think i agree with your friends.

the fact you play halo 3 makes your opinion invalid... fact

Reply 15

geetar

16

Oooh, he sounds a keeper.

In all seriousness, if you feel that it's getting to you, just talk to him about it.

Reply 16

KiiNGofLONDON

sunlightxstarbright

Yes, I know how pathetic the title sounds. Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's part of this TF2 'clan' - basically a group of friends who play matches against other teams. Now I thought this was a little sad when I first heard about it, but he enjoys it so I've left him to it. However, he's began to tell me during phone calls or IM conversations that he has to go so he can practice with his team. I understand that he needs his own time, but we're talking 5pm-9pm every weekday and 12pm-7pm every weekend. It seems a little excessive to me, and although he's never cancelled plans for seeing me due to gaming, I can't help but feel that's the next step. Should I talk to him about this? My friends are also saying to 'dump him and find someone normal', but I don't think that's fair. Idk. Advice?

Playing online isn't weird. If he ever turns down sex for gaming, though, you've got a weird one on your hands.

Reply 17

Glucosinolate

Team fortress 2? Its not a bad game, but playing over 30 hours of it a week sounds horrible

Reply 18

Rubgish

13

sunlightxstarbright

Yes, I know how pathetic the title sounds. Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's part of this TF2 'clan' - basically a group of friends who play matches against other teams. Now I thought this was a little sad when I first heard about it, but he enjoys it so I've left him to it. However, he's began to tell me during phone calls or IM conversations that he has to go so he can practice with his team. I understand that he needs his own time, but we're talking 5pm-9pm every weekday and 12pm-7pm every weekend. It seems a little excessive to me, and although he's never cancelled plans for seeing me due to gaming, I can't help but feel that's the next step. Should I talk to him about this? My friends are also saying to 'dump him and find someone normal', but I don't think that's fair. Idk. Advice?