Girls: Prenuptial agreement for marriage?

hrrmm.i think u missed on a joke.

A prenup suggests that you're going to divorce. It predicts it. If you go into a marriage predicting that it'll fail, why are you getting married?

Why should marriage be any different? You can't control what the other person will do. Suppose they want a divorce?

The general trend is that men make more money than women (sorry 'womyn'), more aggressively pursue promotions and high earning jobs, and are more likely to be in high up positions, then add to that that women generally skive off of work to look after children and generally her overall earning will be comparatively low. Men get raped in divorce courts, women do not. Divorce is generally quite profitable for women; it rarely is for men. There's your answer, now cut the PC bull**** - you know that this is usually true.

As for the original Q: I wouldn't get married at all - it's very foolish for a man, but if I did I'd get a pre-nup and if she didn't like it then no marriage.

If you're not 100%, you shouldn't be getting married. People live together happily without getting married all the time and have done for centuries.

You are 100%, but you can't guarantee you will feel that way for the rest of your life. You certainly can't guarantee your partner will.

By your logic no one should ever get married. No one knows how they will feel 20 years from now. Marriage is not only important to show commitment, but also to protect each other. When you have children and you or your partner quits their job you wouldn't want to be left with nothing in a divorce.

What's wrong with not getting married? I've said this over and over: people should enter into a marriage they're sure of and will absolutely commit themselves to. I don't think people should jump into a marriage unless they're 100% sure they will always commit themselves to it, no matter what. Hence the vows: "love eachother in sickness and in health as long as you both shall live".

That's impossible. Besides, how can you expect your partner to hold your idealistic viewpoint, how do you know they aren't deceiving you?

Maybe that was before Radmacher v Granatino (was in 2009, not sure when exactly)?

The wife appealed and the Court of Appeal took more notice of the pre-nup than in the original case and significantly reduced the amount awarded to the ex-husband. One of the judges in that case said "it was becoming “increasingly unrealistic” for courts to disregard pre-nups".

Why though? (Not dissing your opinion, just curious about your reasoning.)

If you were to be getting married with a guy but he asked you to agree to a prenuptial agreement (which is like an official contract) that states you're not entitled to any of his wealth, property, assets etc. in the event of a divorce...would you accept?

So if a divorce does happen, you will get absolutely nothing that isn't yours (if property mortgages are in both of your names and you've each contributed to it then that's divided) but otherwise what's his remains his and what's your remains yours.

Also, question for the guys...would you consider a prenuptial agreement to protect your money or are you okay with them ripping off your balls through your wallet with a divorce?

EDIT: could be other way around with women having more wealth, I'm just going with the general trend though and it's usually the woman getting the money rather than giving it in most cases.

a prenuptial agreement (which is like an official contract)

If I was asked to sign something like that before getting married I'd be concerned about whether the guy was fully committed, to be honest. I'd be quite hurt by the idea that "this marriage couldn't last and what's mine is mine, biatch".

Ouch. That's a bit nasty of you, isn't it?