I think I have a very nasty personality (confirmed by my mum) but on the other hand I don't want to have. For example theres a girl who is very attractive, good at socialising and good at sport. My best thing Id say is sport and whenever Ive felt inferior Ive always thought well at least Im slim, fit and good at sport. Compared to her though Im utter rubbish yet she says shes bad at sport. Anyway I guess Im jelous of her although I dont show it and I hate seeing her succeed in things the way she celebrates after too secretly annoys me. But then I tell myself that being jelous will get me no where apart from being bitter and that its not her fault shes so good, I tell myself to stop being so nasty I then make an effort to praise her and be nice. But deep down the bitter feeling is still there.
Another thing is that you will all hate me for is with my 9 year old cousin he is so annoying on holidays etc I actually sometimes wish he would injure himself badly or something so he wouldnt be so annoying and cocky. Yet if he did then Id feel really sorry for him.
Its weird because I feel sorry for people who are worse off/unluckier than me yet I feel very jelous of people who are better off.
I can be very childish sometimes but I don't want to be like this I want to be one of those nice people who gets along with everyone and enjoys seeing people happy but my feelings just won't let me! I secretly feel at my happiest when someone fails because it makes me feel better.
Is there anyway I can change these feelings I mean how much does controlling thoughts change your feelings?
Also is a niceness defined as how you feel and want to act, or is it how you force yourself to act due to knowing you are wrong?