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    (Original post by cool_beans1993)
    hahah true but tbh i wouldnt be surprised if i guy told me he had sex before and he was muslim...pretty common nowadays...
    yeh i guess, then again i'd rather he admit and say he did, than the ones that go around pretending to be lil angels in that deparment, like wtf just stop
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    (Original post by blush.ox)
    yeh i guess, then again i'd rather he admit and say he did, than the ones that go around pretending to be lil angels in that deparment, like wtf just stop
    hypocrits!! yh i prefer people to tell the truth cas loadsa people make mistakes especially in high school!
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    LOL people really think muslim men don't care about virgins these days?

    Yeh there might be some but majority DO CARE. As a muslim man myself i would never marry a muslim girl whose been living out at uni and i would do a full background check even if it costs a bomb to find out the girls history.

    Once a girl loses her virginity espicially in such a dirty way, it's literaly GAME OVER!
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    I'm not going to judge you for your actions, however, I do think you should have had more control, but it's happened now and there's nothing you can really do.

    I see your point of not wanting to lose your family over religion - all you can do is view it as a simple mistake and move on (you don't have to tell anyone).

    Besides, I have met a lot of Muslims who don't seem to care about their religion - I'm sure you can find a Muslim guy who shares your views. Having said that, you live in the UK in 2011, no-one guy (Muslim or not) can really - 100% - expect to marry a girl who's a virgin - however much they would like to.

    It was a mistake - move on from it.
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    (Original post by cool_beans1993)
    hypocrits!! yh i prefer people to tell the truth cas loadsa people make mistakes especially in high school!
    they do, but these things cant just be classified as the more 'minor' mistakes though, not saying thats what you mean lol, if a muslim girl does that, its prty serious, which imo it should be anyway, whereas if a guy does, its not to bad , half the time becuse no one ever finds out, typical :lol:
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    (Original post by 4ttari)
    LOL people really think muslim men don't care about virgins these days?

    Yeh there might be some but majority DO CARE. As a muslim man myself i would never marry a muslim girl whose been living out at uni and i would do a full background check even if it costs a bomb to find out the girls history.

    Once a girl loses her virginity espicially in such a dirty way, it's literaly GAME OVER!
    Sort of agree with this post, would really really put me off a girl if shes done it with someone else especially since I've waited long enough, although it also depends on how much you like her and how genuine she is...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    no-one guy (Muslim or not) can really - 100% - expect to marry a girl who's a virgin - however much they would like to.
    I think you are right there, girls in UK are kinda too Whoyie.

    Might have to find a domestic virgin girl from back home.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last night I was out with a group of friends, I met a guy in the club and spent the night with him. I had sex with a stranger and I regret it. I really don’t know what to do. I’m from a muslim background, my parents want me to marry a muslim guy and I Don’t think any muslim guy would ever want to marry a non virgin.
    learn from the experience, does it matter about muslim guys? just find the guy that you like and vice versa regardless of faith
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    Well you don't believe anyway so I don't why you're worrying about it, plus I heard not everyone bleed on their first night if you're worried about that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last night I was out with a group of friends, I met a guy in the club and spent the night with him. I had sex with a stranger and I regret it. I really don’t know what to do. I’m from a muslim background, my parents want me to marry a muslim guy and I Don’t think any muslim guy would ever want to marry a non virgin.
    Ermm..i wanted to pm you some adivse, but i cant since you have posted as Anonymous...:rolleyes:

    Oh, well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last night I was out with a group of friends, I met a guy in the club and spent the night with him. I had sex with a stranger and I regret it. I really don’t know what to do. I’m from a muslim background, my parents want me to marry a muslim guy and I Don’t think any muslim guy would ever want to marry a non virgin.
    I think you should look into Islam and see what it says, to understand what has happened, i may be tellin u this as i'm muslim, but u shud no theres always repentence.
    Also i suggest u understand ur background and realise the effects on ur family if it ever came out, both religious and cultural as theres families whom disown there children completely, they may do honour killing :/ and u should also look at the reprecussions on ur family as others of the same background may shun ur family leading to more problems.
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    (Original post by pHneutral)
    Ermm..i wanted to pm you some adivse, but i cant since you have posted as Anonymous...:rolleyes:

    Oh, well.
    You can always PM me.

    I like good ol advise.
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    bummer.
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    (Original post by 4ttari)
    You can always PM me.

    I like good ol advise.
    Not very good conduct coming from a muslim then isit, ??
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    (Original post by pHneutral)
    Not very good conduct coming from a muslim then isit, ??
    What ya mean?

    Just wanted to know what wisdom filled advise you were gona give her to get her closer to Islam.
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    (Original post by 4ttari)
    What ya mean?

    Just wanted to know what wisdom filled advise you were gona give her to get her closer to Islam.
    And what has that got to do with you exactly? :confused:
    Wisdom filled advise is not for everybody.
    I am a muslim myself, if that helps in cutting down the curosity.
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    (Original post by pHneutral)
    And what has that got to do with you exactly? :confused:
    Wisdom filled advise is not for everybody.
    I am a muslim myself, if that helps in cutting down the curosity.
    Just wondering dude, chillax.
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    (Original post by 4ttari)
    Just wondering dude, chillax.
    Absolutely.
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    (Original post by KrazyKro)
    Sort of agree with this post, would really really put me off a girl if shes done it with someone else especially since I've waited long enough, although it also depends on how much you like her and how genuine she is...
    awwh soo glad people still think like this, well guys basically, normally its the other way round :rolleyes:

    but :yy:
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    OP, it's a long thread for me to have the patience to read through all of it, so sorry if I'm repeating something somebody else has said.

    I am not a muslim, yet I'm very religious. You just shouldn't lie to your parents about something as big as this. And marrying someone you don't love will bring nothing but suffering upon you and your family.
 
 
 
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