Why do I suddenly hate my best friend?Watch
I know how you feel. People who you're closest too eventually become so close that you pick out flaws that generally, no-one else spots, obviously apart from your friend's arrogance. All you gotta' do is try and ignore it; he might get the message and approach you to ask what's wrong, or maybe (if you feel brave enough!) just have a word with him. If it all backfires, don't worry. The best of friends find ways around the toughest of situations!
I've known my best friend for around 8 years now, and I've been at least normal with him throughout that period, but now I'm suddenly finding him really annoying and irritating, I don't know what's wrong with me, or maybe it is him. His personality kinda changed a year or so ago, and ever since it's just really irritated me. He's a nice person although he can say some not so nice things sometimes. He's just one of those people those kind of excitable annoying at the moment, everything he says just goes through me, and his personality just seems like forced happiness (he says he is happy all the time, and says constant weird stuff to do with that), it just seems so fake though. He is very arrogant and you can never win an argument with him, he always thinks he is right about everything, a trait which my other friends have noticed and don't like. Part of me just wants him to leave me alone which is really strange because I don't have that many friends. Any advice? (I know it's very situational.)
I'm now at Uni so I rarely see him now anyway, it's really great when I do see him usually because it's been a while lots of catching up to do etc, strangely enough he seems to be coming down from this state he has been in over the past couple years but I don't know if he is totally or if it will last.
My advice to you is, become independent enough to not need to rely on others, this is mainly my way of thinking and although I know isn't always the best way, it is the way I recommend to you in the sense of getting enough space from this friend, you may just need more time apart and not talk as much.. it's the same with relationships, it's good to be close but you are still individuals, and should go through life as such, always.
On the other hand, you may just be growing apart, in which case maybe you should let it happen? It's up to you. I would stay in touch though because you still have that shared history, and plenty of teenagers go through that fake and arrogant phase then turn into perfectly decent adults.
It sounds to me like the pair of you are going your separate ways. You have different interests now and the friendship is coming to an end. If I were you, I would just spend some time away from him and see how things are. You may get closer, or you may drift apart further.
Everything was fine for a year or so but she began grating on me. She was extremely self-centred and constantly sought attention. As soon as she got a boyfriend it was like our relationship went out the window. At the time I hadn't "blossomed" (for want of a better word). At the end of college she decided to go to the local ex-poly but I wanted something more.
During my college years I suffered much emotional turmoil. None of this she knew about. So, I didn't do as well as I could have. I decided to turn that around and go back to college instead. From then we kind of grew apart.
She texted me a couple of times but I didn't feel comfortable speaking to her. I bumped into her a while back and I felt guilty for some reason. Somehow she had manipulated the situation and made me believe I was in the wrong. I ended up texting her and saying how sorry I was!!
Anyway, since then I have grown and matured as a person. I have realised that the only person I must please is MYSELF!
So, OP, do what you feel comfortable with. Don't feel obliged to continue keeping in contact with your friend if you don't want to.
he's a good lad though, it's not his fault he's gotta face begging to be slapped :P
we haven't even had a falling out or anything, just drifted apart, different interests I guess
First of all, Im new to this so if I send it wrong I'm sorry and more importantly I know how you feel! My best friend came to my house once and messed up my kitchen, made fun of my dreams, ripped paper in my room and cut up my favourite book. As you can probably tell, I was annoyed. She didn't seem herself because she was very - how do I put this? - hyper. I gave myself some space from her and didn't go out with her for a few days. It was fine after that. She seemed to settle down. Try that!
And we've been best friends for ages
But now she's never around, and is never on iMessage to talk to me
And I kinda feel like she's distancing herself from our whole friend group
I've lost that closeness I've had with her and one of my other friends Becky is my best friend
And I'm like closer with her than I ever was with Sophie
And it was great for like this year and last year and Sophie was still my friend just I didn't feel like her best friend anymore
Sophie and Becky are best friends and it feels like I'm being pushed out
Now they're pairs for everything and I feel like sometimes Becky and Sophie are just pretending to be my friends. Plz help me