Mum's found out I don't wear the headscarf.

Educated? In what sense?

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I understand. I am a Muslim. I have 1 sister. She is about to go to college ad my mum will never let her go to the college without her headscarf. In reality, you mum would not kick you out but not wearing a headscarf in not acceptable in Islam. You will see many Muslim women not wearing headscarf. You seriously need to know the reason of wearing a scarf. Wearing a headscarf should not be up to you, but up to the Islam. (A) Islam teaches us respect and authority. You have to listen to your mum and do what she says to you. In Islam, disobeying your parents is strictly forbidden (B) However, the only reason you can disobey your parents is when they are stopping you from the prayer (namaz). In Qur'an, Allah mentioned in the Qur'an, "those who do not obey their parents, the door of the heaven is closed for them". So it means you have to listen to your mum if you do not want to enter the hell (C) In other words, Your parents want your safety, Hijab protects a women from wrong eye sights. It is also worn in the presence of males. The Qur'an does not mention hijab, but khimar. You can find out the difference between hijab and khimar. (D)

I am assuming you are just a teenager. Right? You need to read a Quran with its analysis. You need to understand The QURAN. You are very lucky to have a parent like your mum.

I can't wear jeans. I can't wear "short" tops. I can't wear make-up. I can't listen to music. I can't go out later than ten pm (if I do I face serious repercussions - my mum broke my laptop the last time I broke this curfew). I can't play my ukulele/guitar which I had to literally beg my mum to keep after i saved up and bought them. I can't talk to boys.
There's probably more but that's all I can think of.

So a month or so ago I stopped wearing the hijab as I realised I was wearing it for the wrong reasons (local community expectations rather than religion). Obviously my mum, a rather strict, traditional woman who can never be open to change, found out a few days ago as my brother, his friend and cousin (who'd attempted to blackmail me into doing favours for them in exchange for them keeping quiet, which I refused) saw me working without the hijab. She started crying about how what i was doing was wrong and how I was a slut/ non-Muslim piece of crap. The most hurtful thing she said to me was that I was absolutely nothing.

She then handed me the Qur'an and told me that if she ever heard about me not wearing the hijab ever again, I'd be kicked out.
I have nowhere to go if I am to be kicked out.
Now, every time I come back from a day/evening out, she always comments on whether I've "taken it off" or not. I ignored her, which annoys her a lot, but the lack of choice i have in making decisions about my own life as a 19 year old is so frustrating to deal with.

Just today, I came back from a day out and she was with her friend. I knew instantly she'd berate me for a lot of **** since she always shows off/acts up when in the company of her friends. Anyway, she asked again if I had "taken it off", and her friend giggled. It turns out that she's told nearly EVERYBODY that I've turned into a Khafir, and that I don't wear the hijab anymore. When I ignored her, she turned verbally abusive, demanding to have some of my money and then, when I refused, calling me an "ugly slut".

She seriously pisses me off so much but I have no one to talk to about this. I feel genuinely upset about now being forced to wear the headscarf when I simply don't want to.
I feel so alone. Is there anyone who can help?

I am assuming you are just a teenager. Right? You need to read a Quran with its analysis. You need to understand The QURAN. You are very lucky to have a parent like your mum.

Free will? you are right about a free will. But, There is not free will in Qur'an. Here is the quote from the quran. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to guard their

It's a bit like my elder sister's situation except that she wouldn't get in as much trouble as my family respects her decisions at her age (19). Just attempt to get your mum to see reason - you're an adult and can make your own decisions. Good luck!

Your mother and family sound awful. At 19 you are an adult and should be able to decide these things for yourself. Are you at university or do you work? When do you think you'll be able to move out realistically? It's difficult to comment on how to help without knowing more of your circumstances.

Free will? you are right about a free will. But, There is not free will in Qur'an. Here is the quote from the quran. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to guard their

Free will? you are right about a free will. But, There is not free will in Qur'an. Here is the quote from the quran. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to guard their

I am not disrespecting you but, are you a Muslim and have you completely read and understood the whole Qur'an?

So a month or so ago I stopped wearing the hijab as I realised I was wearing it for the wrong reasons (local community expectations rather than religion). Obviously my mum, a rather strict, traditional woman who can never be open to change, found out a few days ago as my brother, his friend and cousin (who'd attempted to blackmail me into doing favours for them in exchange for them keeping quiet, which I refused) saw me working without the hijab. She started crying about how what i was doing was wrong and how I was a slut/ non-Muslim piece of crap. The most hurtful thing she said to me was that I was absolutely nothing.

She then handed me the Qur'an and told me that if she ever heard about me not wearing the hijab ever again, I'd be kicked out.
I have nowhere to go if I am to be kicked out.
Now, every time I come back from a day/evening out, she always comments on whether I've "taken it off" or not. I ignored her, which annoys her a lot, but the lack of choice i have in making decisions about my own life as a 19 year old is so frustrating to deal with.

Just today, I came back from a day out and she was with her friend. I knew instantly she'd berate me for a lot of **** since she always shows off/acts up when in the company of her friends. Anyway, she asked again if I had "taken it off", and her friend giggled. It turns out that she's told nearly EVERYBODY that I've turned into a Khafir, and that I don't wear the hijab anymore. When I ignored her, she turned verbally abusive, demanding to have some of my money and then, when I refused, calling me an "ugly slut".

She seriously pisses me off so much but I have no one to talk to about this. I feel genuinely upset about now being forced to wear the headscarf when I simply don't want to.
I feel so alone. Is there anyone who can help?

Apologies. I'm Somali, so I'm literally alone in this. no other Somali that I know of has done what I'm attempting to do.
I'm just entering my second year of uni, however my mum has forced me to stay at home and go to uni as well.
I also work part-time at River Island, and I'm hoping to save up.
But I'm scared. I really don't know how to explain it, but I'm scared of being alone.

I understand. I am a Muslim. I have 1 sister. She is about to go to college ad my mum will never let her go to the college without her headscarf. In reality, you mum would not kick you out but not wearing a headscarf in not acceptable in Islam. You will see many Muslim women not wearing headscarf. You seriously need to know the reason of wearing a scarf. Wearing a headscarf should not be up to you, but up to the Islam. Islam teaches us respect and authority. You have to listen to your mum and do what she says to you. In Islam, disobeying your parents is strictly forbidden. However, the only reason you can disobey your parents is when they are stopping you from the prayer (namaz). In Qur'an, Allah mentioned in the Qur'an, "those who do not obey their parents, the door of the heaven is closed for them". So it means you have to listen to your mum if you do not want to enter the hell. In other words, Your parents want your safety, Hijab protects a women from wrong eye sights. It is also worn in the presence of males. The Qur'an does not mention hijab, but khimar. You can find out the difference between hijab and khimar. please check this. http://www.quran-islam.org/main_topics/misinterpreted_verses/khomoorehenna_(P1226).html

She is not going to hell for not wearing a scarf, But for disobeying her mother. And please do not reply to me anymore. I am not disrespecting you at all. I appreciate your opinions and facts.

I can imagine how it'd be for her because the whole community will know about your situations and other Muslims instantly judge you when they see your wearing jeans. I'm 15 and I constantly get comments about wearing jeans at my age and how I should be more religious blah blah from random strangers. Muslim girls are basically the property of their father until they get married. Your parent's rules. I just thank that my parents let me make my own decisions and my freedom even though they are religious.