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Attracted to him- what should i do?

Hey, I need some advice so the best place I thought to go was here and ask the lovely TSR. Anon or delete just in case someone I know sees this. Basically, in September I started college and started doing A level Art, I get on really well with the people on my table and this guy got put with us as we put on a seating plan lets call him "Jack". I find Jack really attractive and would like to know him better, the only thing is, he doesn't talk AT ALL. We all talk to each other on our art table but Jack is really quiet and just gets on with his work. I smile at him when we come in to art but he just ignores it, looks at me and then continues doing his art work. I got Jack to talk for the first time 2 days ago by asking how he was and he was really quiet at first and gave really simplistic answers. My friends started asking him questions too trying to get him to join in the conversation but sometimes he mumbles to himself or talks really quietly before trying to talk again. Yesterday, I said "hi" to Jack but he didn't say anything back, I was really nervous since I had a crush on him. My friend was at the table and she suddenly started talking about exes then she turned the conversation to my ex. I tried to dodge it but she implicated that I slept around a lot and that I enjoyed it, all which is lies, I have only kissed a guy before. I laughed at something she said and Jack was looking slightly at me before getting back on his work. He probably thinks I'm promiscuous now which is slightly mortifying. I know Jack has a group of friends so I was wondering whether he is quiet because A) he doesn't like me so doesn't want to talk to me B) is really shy or C) autistic. I was wondering what you all thought of the situation and if there was a possible way I could get him to like me? He walks the dog around my area every day at the same time I walk mine so I was wondering if I should try to strike up conversation even though he rushes past me with his pet? Also, should I continue trying to talk to him? Please help :biggrin:
He could be quiet for a few reasons, perhaps he's nervous or not the best at socialising. (Let's hope he's not already taken). I think you should continue trying to talk to him, don't force it but still try every now and again. Look for clues to see what type of stuff he's into and strike up a conversation about that. The dog walking idea is a good one too. He seemed to show interest when your friend made out that you have slept with guys, which could mean he's attracted to girls with.. experience. So keep that in mind xD But anyway, I think you should continue your efforts good luck! :smile:
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Original post by LaurenAbbott1
He could be quiet for a few reasons, perhaps he's nervous or not the best at socialising. (Let's hope he's not already taken). I think you should continue trying to talk to him, don't force it but still try every now and again. Look for clues to see what type of stuff he's into and strike up a conversation about that. The dog walking idea is a good one too. He seemed to show interest when your friend made out that you have slept with guys, which could mean he's attracted to girls with.. experience. So keep that in mind xD But anyway, I think you should continue your efforts good luck! :smile:
Thank you for this. I don't think he has a girlfriend since although he has a group of male friends, he only hangs out with them occasionally as I usually see him alone on his phone during lunch times. He keeps himself to himself I never know what he is interested in because he doesn't talk much, but I would like to know more about him. When he looked at me when he thought I had slept with people (which isn't true), it was only for a split second but I knew he had heard since he was so close, I was pretty mortified. He mumbled when I talked to him after so I think he is probably disgusted which is a shame :frown:
Reason: He is a true artist...:eek:
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Original post by Vladimir Gardin
Reason: He is a true artist...:eek:

Ah, I didn't think of this but then again, he sometimes takes the same bus as me and still doesn't talk
Reply 5
Any ideas how I can approach him guys without looking creepy? :rolleyes:
Reply 6
He might be gay ?
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Original post by Old_Simon
He might be gay ?
I'm hoping he's not. He's quiet with everyone though :tongue:
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Original post by Anonymous
I'm hoping he's not. He's quiet with everyone though :tongue:


What a lot of girls do in this situation is befriend his best friend. Then they ask him to tell the guy that they really like him. Never fails. :wink:
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Original post by Old_Simon
What a lot of girls do in this situation is befriend his best friend. Then they ask him to tell the guy that they really like him. Never fails. :wink:


Wish it was that simple. I don't know any of his friends and they all attend different classes. I only see him in art, walking the dog and occasionally a few other times :redface:
Dog owners always talk to each other. Just say Hi ! Good luck !
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Original post by Old_Simon
Dog owners always talk to each other. Just say Hi ! Good luck !


OK, thanks, I'll try talk to him but it'll probably look really odd since he practically runs with his dog :biggrin:
Original post by Anonymous
Any ideas how I can approach him guys without looking creepy? :rolleyes:


Just dont give a **** .

It's nice to hear girls fall for different types of guys , not just the loud popular ones who flirt with the entire female populous.

When you see him alone , just go for it , spark up random conversation . Likelihood is he's quite shy , so its up to you to make him feel comfortable enough for him to open up to you , once he does though he wont be able to stop.

If you see him before class ask him how his weekend was etc , anything non class related really as that might insinuate your only interested in helping you out.
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Original post by Jaegon Targaryen
Just dont give a **** .

It's nice to hear girls fall for different types of guys , not just the loud popular ones who flirt with the entire female populous.

When you see him alone , just go for it , spark up random conversation . Likelihood is he's quite shy , so its up to you to make him feel comfortable enough for him to open up to you , once he does though he wont be able to stop.

If you see him before class ask him how his weekend was etc , anything non class related really as that might insinuate your only interested in helping you out.

Would it look stupid since I've never talked to him before except to say "hi"? Also, he heard all the stuff about my ex so do you think he will still be interested or will it have ruined my chances? I like that he isn't loud and obnoxious like my ex, there's an air of mystery around him since he doesn't talk which is where most of the attraction comes from I think :colondollar:
Reply 14
What should I do? Does anyone think I have a chance?
Original post by Anonymous
Would it look stupid since I've never talked to him before except to say "hi"? Also, he heard all the stuff about my ex so do you think he will still be interested or will it have ruined my chances? I like that he isn't loud and obnoxious like my ex, there's an air of mystery around him since he doesn't talk which is where most of the attraction comes from I think :colondollar:


He might be a little suprised at first but he will most likely be flattered and will be happy to talk to you .

I doubt he's likely to be put off by that stuff , if anything he might see you as a safer bet as you have history.

I've heard girls often like mysterious guys but really ? Man I can be quite quiet myself sometimes but I never thought it got the girls mirin , usually they prefer a chatty guy who can hold a convo , banter etc.

Just approach him next time you see him , maybe ask him where he lives as he often runs past you , I like your dog etc Highlight any common ground you might have , show that your interested in him as a person and hopefully he will come out his shell to you.
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Original post by Jaegon Targaryen
He might be a little suprised at first but he will most likely be flattered and will be happy to talk to you .

I doubt he's likely to be put off by that stuff , if anything he might see you as a safer bet as you have history.

I've heard girls often like mysterious guys but really ? Man I can be quite quiet myself sometimes but I never thought it got the girls mirin , usually they prefer a chatty guy who can hold a convo , banter etc.

Just approach him next time you see him , maybe ask him where he lives as he often runs past you , I like your dog etc Highlight any common ground you might have , show that your interested in him as a person and hopefully he will come out his shell to you.
Thank you, I will say start by saying hi to him and asking how his day was, my friends were calling me "slutty" yesterday etc. so I hope it hasn't given the wrong message, that I sleep around as I don't because I'm a virgin. Also, I noticed yesterday when he talked to people afterwards he would start talking to himself in a really quiet voice and then talk louder to everyone, why is this? The other problem is, I think he may be interested in my friend because he tries to strike up conversation with her but he hasn't with anyone else. I really like him :colondollar:

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