why's it hard to find someone on the same page as me?

Don't look for relationships. Do what you enjoy doing, or what you do best. (only when you are 100% content with yourself will you attract others)

Hmm, there isn't a solution then. You said it yourself, "you can function alone", so you can only keep doing that until you meet a special person that you're completely satisfied with

Yeah...

Yes!

I have exactly the same problem. Loads of people do. Unfortunately though the proportion of those "loads of people" that do that are exactly suitable for you is pretty low and so there is a good chance you won't find them very easily...

How old are you? Knowing will help give you better advice as context is key.

Sad but true. At least I'm I'm not alone in this. A part of me is worried I won't find someone suitable and end up settlling.

Hi,
I'm 26

Try not to worry ... chance says there MUST be some honourable gentlemen out there, you just have to be patient and find them.

That's interesting. By that age I'd expect people to be more keen on settling down/with a view towards it. Suggests a lack of maturity in the guys you've had dealings with (not your fault- it's not a criticism). What kind of age guys do you tend to go for? Are they around your age or older? Any trend in professionals/educational background?

From my experience, people in finance/law/"City" type jobs tend to be far less willing to commit than people in a lot of other professions. Part of it is probably because of time, and the fact that such careers tend to attract a certain type of person. Is this possibly the issue?

Lots of people have that worry. That's why those ideas are such a prevalent part of culture manifest through our art.

Still, there's not much to gained dwelling on it too much. What happens will happen. Worrying about whether your life will turn out great won't make it turn out great, it will probably do the opposite. So stop worrying about that and do things to make yourself more attractive. Do you lift? If not, start lifting

Even if it won't help you get a boyfriend, which by the way, it will, it improves your quality of life and takes your mind off these needless worries. Hobbies are very important and very undervalued in our society I think.

For the record, I want monogamy. Casual/open relationships just don't appeal to me whatsoever. But i think I'm rare - All the other guys I know are either in relationships that stemmed from casual stuff, or are just into getting laid by whatever means..

I feel the same way. I'm only 20 though. I just need to get out more.

*high five* it is very rare. From what I've seen guys in particular love casual affairs. It all seems a bit backwards to me. I can never see myself being intimate with someone casually before being in a relationship. To each their own.